The term “Beginner’s Mind” comes from Zen Buddhism. It means having an open mind, an eagerness and a lack of preconceptions when learning about a topic or activity, even when you aren’t a novice. Midlife dating can be difficult to approach with a childlike wonder because you’ve dated in the past and/or been in long-term…
Tag: Dating after 40
Men’s fear: she’s a poser
Talking about dating with a midlife single friend he asked, “Do you know men’s biggest dating fear?” “Dating a psycho?” “No.” “Getting an STD?” “No.” “She gets pregnant?” “Those are all high on the list, but it’s not what I’m thinking of.”
Sweetie-less for Valentine’s Day?
Valentine’s Day is meant for lovers. So what if you are alone on this day designed to celebrate love? What if you are like many women who are dating, but without a regular sweetie with whom to celebrate Valentine’s Day? Perhaps you’ve been dating around, but there’s no one with whom it makes sense to…
Nice guys don’t have to finish last
I have an inkling into why the cliché “nice guys finish last” has become an axiom. Nice is not enough for many women to find a midlife man appealing.
Mistaking nice for interest
One of the hardest things in dating is when one of you misinterprets the other’s niceness or politeness for interest. I’ve been on both sides — the misinterpreter and the misinterpreted. Last night I was on the latter side. Neither feels good.
He suggests getting naked — for the second date!
It’s not what you think. Yes, he suggested getting naked, although he didn’t say it that bluntly.
Can he afford you?
While in Dubai, I befriended a 28-year-old local professional man who shared the romantic reality for many like him. His description made me think of some parallels to Western dating, although, of course, there are huge differences.
Uneven ardor
It’s wonderful when dating someone who has the same level of infatuation you do. It’s fabulous to both feel similarly smitten. However, my experience is it isn’t that common to feel equal adoration. One of you is typically more entranced than the other.
At long last!
No, I haven’t found the man of my dreams. Which means you’ll keep getting entries to this blog. What I’m talking about is, the Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 books are ready! I’ve culled years of favorite postings and divided them into areas critical to embracing dating after 40 as an adventure. Which, since…
“Manslations” review
Jeff Mac has just released a brilliant book, Manslations: Decoding the Secret Language of Men. (Full disclosure: Mac is a pal of mine, having formed a pal-ship through our blogs. We have a bit of a mutual admiration society, so perhaps my review of his book is a tad tainted. But I will try to…
A most opulent date
Let’s say you’ve been going with someone a while and he is wealthy. I mean money is no object. Think Trump, Gates, Buffet kind of dough. He says, “Darling, I’d like to take you somewhere really special — the most luxurious hotel in the world.” Would you say, “yes”? Boy howdy, I would!