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Dating with “Beginner’s Mind”

The term “Beginner’s Mind” comes from Zen Buddhism. It means having an open mind, an eagerness and a lack of preconceptions when learning about a topic or activity, even when you aren’t a novice.

Midlife dating can be difficult to approach with a childlike wonder because you’ve dated in the past and/or been in long-term relationships. You feel you are at the graduate level, not a newbie. You think you know a lot about the other gender, even if you’ve had difficulty in many of your past relationships.

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Men’s fear: she’s a poser

Talking about dating with a midlife single friend he asked, “Do you know men’s biggest dating fear?”

“Dating a psycho?”

“No.”

“Getting an STD?”

“No.”

“She gets pregnant?”

“Those are all high on the list, but it’s not what I’m thinking of.”

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Sweetie-less for Valentine’s Day?

Valentine’s Day is meant for lovers. So what if you are alone on this day designed to celebrate love? What if you are like many women who are dating, but without a regular sweetie with whom to celebrate Valentine’s Day? Perhaps you’ve been dating around, but there’s no one with whom it makes sense to get lovey-dovey on this, the snuggle fest of holidays. Or maybe you have yet to stick your toe in the dating pool.

There are many ways to spend the day wrapped in love, even if you are without a sweetie. Here are some ideas for you:

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Can he afford you?

While in Dubai, I befriended a 28-year-old local professional man who shared the romantic reality for many like him. His description made me think of some parallels to Western dating, although, of course, there are huge differences.

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Uneven ardor

images-1It’s wonderful when dating someone who has the same level of infatuation you do. It’s fabulous to both feel similarly smitten.

However, my experience is it isn’t that common to feel equal adoration. One of you is typically more entranced than the other.

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At long last!

No, I haven't found the man of my dreams. Which means you'll keep getting entries to this blog. What I'm talking about is, the Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40…
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A most opulent date

Let’s say you’ve been going with someone a while and he is wealthy. I mean money is no object. Think Trump, Gates, Buffet kind of dough. He says, “Darling, I’d like to take you somewhere really special — the most luxurious hotel in the world.” Would you say, “yes”? Boy howdy, I would!