“You’ve dated a lot of men now. You’ve been seeing a terrific guy. Why don’t you just decide to focus on him and settle down?” My friend was concerned with my playing the field and thought I would be better off just choosing one man on whom to focus. “But if I know he’s not…
Tag: dating after 50
Inside the mind of a Casanova
By now you may have heard of the story shown on the Today show last week, “Inside the Mind of Casanova.” Paul Janka, a tall, good-looking, 32-year-old Harvard-educated writer, shares his philosophies, and techniques for picking up and bedding women. He claims he is upfront that he just wants to have “fun.” We have no…
“What would you need to feel comfortable having sex?”
I never would have thought of this question, but a friend suggested it as a way of discussing the desire to step up a dating relationship, without it just happening willy nilly in the heat of the moment. I pondered what I’d say if I were asked. Answers did not pour forth, but only came…
Yuck!
I feel soiled, sullied, icky. Bad. Horrible. I unknowingly betrayed a good, long-time friend. “How?” you ask. Here’s the story. A few months ago a man emailed me from a dating site new to me. We struck up a nice IM conversation. He hadn’t posted a pic, so I asked for one and he promptly…
The power of spelling
NYSharon brought it up in a comment the other day. I and others have mentioned it before. During a TV interview about online dating a 50-something single woman said it was a pet peeve. Spelling. Or more accurately, misspellings. (Spell check told me that “misspellings” was wrong, but Dictionary.com says it’s okay.) On one hand,…
“What’s your favorite curve?”
In “Understanding the stage your guy is in” I told you about Alison Armstrong’s study of what makes men tick and her subsequent “Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women®” workshops. I attended the free introductory program and not only confirmed some of what I’d learned on my own, but got some refinements and new information as well….
Are you a generous conversationalist?
This weekend I had the opportunity to be with a handful of extremely smart, highly accomplished executive women friends. I noticed two things about our conversations: Some of the women add to the conversation only what they think would be of interest to others, not whatever crosses their mind at the moment. Some of the…
Yes, it is all about you
Yesterday, Price Considerate shared that in a moment of candor one of his mentees disclosed he was first put off by PC, in part because that day PC’s shoes didn’t match his pants. PC explained to him that sometimes he doesn’t pay as much attention to those details as he should, but he didn’t get…
The man-sieve
Unless you live in a remote area, there are eligible, age-appropriate single men all around you. You have developed a filter for either attracting them or not, or accepting or rejecting date requests. Before you began dating you may have said, “I don’t really know what I want, so I’ll go out with anyone who…
Noticing what’s positively eliminated
In relationships — even dating relationships — you often discover behaviors in the other that drive you batty. These behaviors aren’t deal breakers, just minor annoyances. So you non-judgmentally share your irritation with your guy and ask him if he would be willing to work on reducing this. He is accommodating, apologizes for it whatever…
Does he know what turns you on?
Does the guy you’re dating know what turns you on? Or does he make assumptions based on what turns him on? Today I received a bawdy video emailed from an old beau turned friend. It was clips of naked, buxom women playing various sports — gymnastics, calisthenics, etc. He thought it would turn me on….