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Does “settling down” mean “settling”?
"You've dated a lot of men now. You've been seeing a terrific guy. Why don't you just decide to focus on him and settle down?" My friend was concerned with…
Posted inDating after 40 From fear to frolic: sex
Inside the mind of a Casanova
By now you may have heard of the story shown on the Today show last week, "Inside the Mind of Casanova." Paul Janka, a tall, good-looking, 32-year-old Harvard-educated writer, shares…
“What would you need to feel comfortable having sex?”
I never would have thought of this question, but a friend suggested it as a way of discussing the desire to step up a dating relationship, without it just happening…
Yuck!
I feel soiled, sullied, icky. Bad. Horrible. I unknowingly betrayed a good, long-time friend. "How?" you ask. Here's the story. A few months ago a man emailed me from a…
The power of spelling
NYSharon brought it up in a comment the other day. I and others have mentioned it before. During a TV interview about online dating a 50-something single woman said it…
Posted inDating after 40 Dating chemistry
“What’s your favorite curve?”
In "Understanding the stage your guy is in" I told you about Alison Armstrong's study of what makes men tick and her subsequent “Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women®” workshops. I attended…
Are you a generous conversationalist?
This weekend I had the opportunity to be with a handful of extremely smart, highly accomplished executive women friends. I noticed two things about our conversations: Some of the women…
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Yes, it is all about you
Yesterday, Price Considerate shared that in a moment of candor one of his mentees disclosed he was first put off by PC, in part because that day PC's shoes didn't…
Posted inAssessing your assets Dating after 40
The man-sieve
Unless you live in a remote area, there are eligible, age-appropriate single men all around you. You have developed a filter for either attracting them or not, or accepting or…
Posted inDating after 40 Real deal or faux beau
Noticing what’s positively eliminated
In relationships -- even dating relationships -- you often discover behaviors in the other that drive you batty. These behaviors aren't deal breakers, just minor annoyances. So you non-judgmentally share…
Posted inDating after 40 From fear to frolic: sex
Does he know what turns you on?
Does the guy you're dating know what turns you on? Or does he make assumptions based on what turns him on? Today I received a bawdy video emailed from an…