Looking for a connection
"I've had a lot of sex in my life. I'm looking for a connection. Sex is an important element in a long-term relationship, but it's not the only important thing."…
Posted inAssessing your assets Dating after 40
Can an ambitious gal find happiness with a lackadaisical guy?
Bev, a DG reader, shared: I met a guy a couple months ago, and I really like him. He is everything I could possibly ask for, except for one thing,…
Prince Considerate
Many women refer to their perfect man as Prince Charming. We want someone who is likable and knows what to say to get along with others. But charm can also…
When should you disclose any, er, unusual preferences?
I was once contacted by a man who said in his profile that he was "slightly kinky." When I asked what he meant exactly, he said he’d explain in person.…
Posted inDating after 40 Moving on graciously
Gently telling him you want to be friends
A DG reader sent this question: Any ideas on how to gently let a good man go? I had several dates with a kind, intelligent, respectful man. We had much…
Advice from sister-surrogate sages
Having lunch with two friends, both 16 years my senior, we were discussing relationships. They asked about my love life, always wanting an update on the soap opera of my…
Even eye candy isn’t good if you’re allergic
Last night, a date and I went to a Halloween party. The room was filled with scantily clad, hard-bodied beautiful people in provocative costumes. I tried to fit in with…
Are you sending off “ready” vibes?
Talking to a single friend about her dating life, she said, "I'm really not ready, but I do have a profile posted." "Why do you have a profile posted if…
The zest test
An attractive, successful, intelligent, sexy 48-year-old man told me on our first date that he'd only had two other dates in the last 3.5 years. I asked why. "I'm not…
Bank of Grace account overdrawn
You met a guy and you seemed to hit it off really well. You saw him a few times. Lots of flirting, which led to hand holding and even kissing.…
Are you holding on when you should let go?
Have you been in (or perhaps are in) a relationship that the other person isn't as into? It doesn't have to be a committed relationship, as this can happen even…