Is he collecting data on how to make you happy?
I briefly dated a man who interspersed into our conversations a myriad of questions about my preferences. He asked about my favorite flower, gemstone, color, fabric, musical artist, book genre,…
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Sexual desire is alive and well in daters over 50
Alert reader Paulette sent a link to this article, "Sex, Lust And Passion Top Baby Boomer Love Expectations" for us to mull over. According to a study conducted by Wanobe.com,…
Scantily clothed pictures
A gal pal new to online dating asked me: "What does it mean when a man offers to send you scantily clad pictures, and you haven't even talked to him…
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Marriage as a business deal?
I received an email about a presumably true Craigslist personals ad by a 25-year-old attractive ("stunningly beautiful") NYC woman wanting advice on how to meet and marry a man who…
The faux vacation fling
You had an instant, magical, mutual connection. On the first date you both expressed how attracted you were to the other, and how much you enjoyed your time together. He…
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Falling in love one drop at a time
Have you noticed that people fall in love with varying rapidity? For some, it's a wham, all-at-once thing soon -- sometimes minutes -- after meeting someone. For others, it may…
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Is your date sensitive to your comfort?
In "Before agreeing to a weekend getaway, clarify expectations" I shared how I've learned to ask better questions before going on an outing. So I asked a few when a…
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“Ninny-ness”
A gal pal says that when you're enamored, smitten, enraptured, enthralled, and/or mesmerized with someone, you become a ninny. Your brain is not fully engaged. You do and say things…
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Becoming a “boo”
What is a boo? Does it have something to do with ghosts? When doubled, does it refer to a child's scraped knee? No. It is from the language of the…
How long do you hedge your bet?
You've been seeing someone casually, once a week for a month. You like him, he seems to like you as he keeps asking you to lunch, and ending each encounter…
Dating for lazy people
"All right, Mr. DeMille, I'm ready for my close-up." Norma Desmond's line from "Sunset Boulevard" takes on new meaning now that we have online video speed dating thanks to SpeedDate.com.…