My friend British professional speaker Graham Davies describes himself as “aggressively single.” He’s 44 and has a highly successful speaking business in Europe and the US. Friends tease me about the number of men I’ve gone out with in the last two years. Often they exclaim, “I haven’t dated that many people in my life!”…
Month: September 2006
Why do we date?
Common responses include: to have fun, romance, companionship, a family, sex, a “soft place to land,” affection, love, excitement, security, marriage, a life partner, to love and be loved, and eliminate loneliness. All good reasons. However, I think one of the most profound reasons is stated by Susan Sarandon‘s character Beverly Clark, in the American…
He had me from “You’re gorgeous!”
In “Jerry McGuire,” Renee Zellweger‘s character tells Jerry “You had me from ‘hello.’” Mine was a little different. We’d talked a few times on the phone and had nice, but brief, conversations. I wrote about him in “Putting your best voice forward.” I had no idea if I’d be attracted to him or him to…
“What’s your ring size?”
You’d think that this would be high on the list of a single woman’s most-desired questions. Unfortunately, for me it was not. We’d been dating for four months, although we saw each other only every 9-12 days. He called every day, but we hadn’t really spent much time together. I was fond of him, but…
“Any booty will do”
At my professional association’s conference, a long-single man I’ve known 10+ years stepped up his flirting with me. He’s significantly younger, shorter, and geographically undesirable, as well as other characteristics that make us not a good match, but we’re pals and dancing buddies. At one of the informal events, I was lying on my side…
Charm school for men?
Many times I have said that I should start a charm school for men. (And I know men who say they should do this for women.) The challenge is the ones who really need it wouldn’t register. My friend Ken Braly sent me an interesting article from yesterday’s San Francisco Chronicle. In “Charm school for…
An excuse to seduce or how important is sexual compatibility?
Really the question is, how important is finding out if you’re sexual compatible early in a relationship? A guy pal told me his sister began dating a guy. She told her guy she’d decided to wait six months before having sex, because in the past she’d fallen into bed with men too early and then…
Are you getting prime time from your man?
A guy pal called me on a Friday night and was surprised I was home. He knew I’d been dating a guy for a few weeks and thought I’d be out on the town. “Is he out of town?” he asked. “No.” When I explained that I saw my guy Wed., but we weren’t scheduled…
Qualify your potential dates before meeting
After dating now nearly 2 years, I’ve learned how to weed out many men who aren’t good matches. Why meet and waste both our time? Men have to go through a few hoops to earn a date with me — even if it’s just a coffee date. I have more invitations than I have time…
The singles’ life: swapping sexual favors for … dog sitting!
A former flame recently told me an old girlfriend, who ended their relationship extremely badly, asked if he’d take care of her dogs while she’s on vacation. When he said yes, but wouldn’t accept any money for it, she offered to give him sexual services in exchange for dog sitting. She’d even designed a sexual-favors…
Would you lie to get laid?
My friend Ian Percy pointed out that in Sue Pelletier’s blog entry “What’s your backstory?” she discusses the Dentyne “Happy Hunting” guide to help young men and women seem more attractive to each other. For example, it gives some fake stories you can use to impress the other sex (e.g., you were in a commercial…