I have an inkling into why the cliché “nice guys finish last” has become an axiom. Nice is not enough for many women to find a midlife man appealing.
Dating after 40
Mistaking nice for interest
One of the hardest things in dating is when one of you misinterprets the other’s niceness or politeness for interest. I’ve been on both sides — the misinterpreter and the misinterpreted. Last night I was on the latter side. Neither feels good.
He suggests getting naked — for the second date!
It’s not what you think. Yes, he suggested getting naked, although he didn’t say it that bluntly.
Can he afford you?
While in Dubai, I befriended a 28-year-old local professional man who shared the romantic reality for many like him. His description made me think of some parallels to Western dating, although, of course, there are huge differences.
Uneven ardor
It’s wonderful when dating someone who has the same level of infatuation you do. It’s fabulous to both feel similarly smitten. However, my experience is it isn’t that common to feel equal adoration. One of you is typically more entranced than the other.
At long last!
No, I haven’t found the man of my dreams. Which means you’ll keep getting entries to this blog. What I’m talking about is, the Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 books are ready! I’ve culled years of favorite postings and divided them into areas critical to embracing dating after 40 as an adventure. Which, since…
“Manslations” review
Jeff Mac has just released a brilliant book, Manslations: Decoding the Secret Language of Men. (Full disclosure: Mac is a pal of mine, having formed a pal-ship through our blogs. We have a bit of a mutual admiration society, so perhaps my review of his book is a tad tainted. But I will try to…
A most opulent date
Let’s say you’ve been going with someone a while and he is wealthy. I mean money is no object. Think Trump, Gates, Buffet kind of dough. He says, “Darling, I’d like to take you somewhere really special — the most luxurious hotel in the world.” Would you say, “yes”? Boy howdy, I would!
Have you let the camel’s nose under your tent?
Since I’m in Dubai, I thought I’d take an Arabian tale and apply it to dating. A Bedouin tied his camel outside his tent and retired for the night. It is unusually cold, so the camel sticks his nose under the tent and asks, “Master, may I keep my nose warm?” The master thinks, what’s the…
Dubai dates
You are, no doubt, expecting me to tell you of a fabulously wealthy shaikh who has swept me off my feet during my visit here. I’ve only been here 2 days, but no one has been enamored with me yet. In fact, the local authorities block access to Match.com and other dating sites. Although www.uaedating.com…
To webcam or not?
Are you likely to webcam chat with a man you haven’t met? There can be pros and cons. I don’t encourage web chats — in fact, I refuse to turn on my webcam even though it’s built into my computer. But potential suitors turn theirs on, so who am I to refuse their invitation? The…