[googmonify]8790107066:right:120:600[/googmonify]A few weeks ago on “Private Practice” two colleagues decided to take their sexual chemistry to the “friends with benefits” level. However, when in the bedroom ready to commence, she couldn’t go through with it, claiming that sex together would cheapen their relationship. She exclaims, “I’m not just some girl you met on the Internet.”…
Dating after 40
Playgirl glory
It took five months of occasional email exchanges to finally meet. It was worth the wait. Why so long? He had been traveling the world for a non-profit project he founded. He was in the States infrequently during the past year, and even more rarely at his home in my area. As part of getting…
“I’m a nerd!”
[googmonify]8604416547:left:120:240[/googmonify] So said the professor with a Ph.D. and several masters degrees. My Google search revealed a page (not written by him) that called him “a famed professor” in his area of study. Other sites also lauded him. So I thought perhaps he was being modest when saying he was a nerd as he pursued…
Beware of multitasking when multidating
When friends learn I have sometimes dated multiple men simultaneously, they ask how I am able to do so. Logistically, I keep notes in my Date-A-Base, logging facts like children (names, ages, locations), parents (living or not, location), marriage/LTRs (how long, how long ago), where he grew up, went to school, or important jobs or…
Prince Considerate breaks up — considerately
After dinner and a nice stroll, we settled back in my house for a DVD. But before we could get started, he pulled me to his lap and put his arms around me. “This is a very hard thing, but I need to say it. I don’t know why, but I’m not finding myself falling…
When sexual electricity can scorch you
His smile ignites you. His touch sends currents up your spine. His kiss jolts you like you’ve been jump-started. We dream — nay, fantasize — about this kind of sexual energy. You are intoxicated by the charged feelings which blow the fuses of any rational thinking. You relish the feeling of the energy coursing through…
Does “settling down” mean “settling”?
“You’ve dated a lot of men now. You’ve been seeing a terrific guy. Why don’t you just decide to focus on him and settle down?” My friend was concerned with my playing the field and thought I would be better off just choosing one man on whom to focus. “But if I know he’s not…
Inside the mind of a Casanova
By now you may have heard of the story shown on the Today show last week, “Inside the Mind of Casanova.” Paul Janka, a tall, good-looking, 32-year-old Harvard-educated writer, shares his philosophies, and techniques for picking up and bedding women. He claims he is upfront that he just wants to have “fun.” We have no…
“What would you need to feel comfortable having sex?”
I never would have thought of this question, but a friend suggested it as a way of discussing the desire to step up a dating relationship, without it just happening willy nilly in the heat of the moment. I pondered what I’d say if I were asked. Answers did not pour forth, but only came…
Yuck!
I feel soiled, sullied, icky. Bad. Horrible. I unknowingly betrayed a good, long-time friend. “How?” you ask. Here’s the story. A few months ago a man emailed me from a dating site new to me. We struck up a nice IM conversation. He hadn’t posted a pic, so I asked for one and he promptly…
The power of spelling
NYSharon brought it up in a comment the other day. I and others have mentioned it before. During a TV interview about online dating a 50-something single woman said it was a pet peeve. Spelling. Or more accurately, misspellings. (Spell check told me that “misspellings” was wrong, but Dictionary.com says it’s okay.) On one hand,…