During my trip abroad, I’ve invited several relationship coaches/bloggers/authors to fill in. So you’ll have a different weekly voice to read. The first one is from my friend Rachel Sarah, author of Single Mom Seeking. Her book is full of not only practical tips, but candid reports from the dating front as a single mom….
Dating after 40
Fresh start. New beginning.
[googmonify]8790107066:right:120:600[/googmonify]Within a few weeks of my ex announcing he was leaving, these four words came to me while I was sleeping. I want to say they were in a dream, but they were so vivid and clear it was as if they were said by someone standing next to my bed. While I was still…
New approach to dating resolutions
I know it’s clichéd. Talking about New Year’s resolutions on New Year’s Eve. Ho hum. How original — not! But I heard a BBC World Service report that made me think differently about resolutions — especially dating resolutions.
“I’m not just some girl you met on the Internet”
[googmonify]8790107066:right:120:600[/googmonify]A few weeks ago on “Private Practice” two colleagues decided to take their sexual chemistry to the “friends with benefits” level. However, when in the bedroom ready to commence, she couldn’t go through with it, claiming that sex together would cheapen their relationship. She exclaims, “I’m not just some girl you met on the Internet.”…
Playgirl glory
It took five months of occasional email exchanges to finally meet. It was worth the wait. Why so long? He had been traveling the world for a non-profit project he founded. He was in the States infrequently during the past year, and even more rarely at his home in my area. As part of getting…
“I’m a nerd!”
[googmonify]8604416547:left:120:240[/googmonify] So said the professor with a Ph.D. and several masters degrees. My Google search revealed a page (not written by him) that called him “a famed professor” in his area of study. Other sites also lauded him. So I thought perhaps he was being modest when saying he was a nerd as he pursued…
Beware of multitasking when multidating
When friends learn I have sometimes dated multiple men simultaneously, they ask how I am able to do so. Logistically, I keep notes in my Date-A-Base, logging facts like children (names, ages, locations), parents (living or not, location), marriage/LTRs (how long, how long ago), where he grew up, went to school, or important jobs or…
Prince Considerate breaks up — considerately
After dinner and a nice stroll, we settled back in my house for a DVD. But before we could get started, he pulled me to his lap and put his arms around me. “This is a very hard thing, but I need to say it. I don’t know why, but I’m not finding myself falling…
When sexual electricity can scorch you
His smile ignites you. His touch sends currents up your spine. His kiss jolts you like you’ve been jump-started. We dream — nay, fantasize — about this kind of sexual energy. You are intoxicated by the charged feelings which blow the fuses of any rational thinking. You relish the feeling of the energy coursing through…
Does “settling down” mean “settling”?
“You’ve dated a lot of men now. You’ve been seeing a terrific guy. Why don’t you just decide to focus on him and settle down?” My friend was concerned with my playing the field and thought I would be better off just choosing one man on whom to focus. “But if I know he’s not…
Inside the mind of a Casanova
By now you may have heard of the story shown on the Today show last week, “Inside the Mind of Casanova.” Paul Janka, a tall, good-looking, 32-year-old Harvard-educated writer, shares his philosophies, and techniques for picking up and bedding women. He claims he is upfront that he just wants to have “fun.” We have no…