Usually flirting’s rewards are putting a smile on someone else’s face as well as your own, sharing a laugh and connection, enjoying the moment, and sometimes getting a hug, a kiss, or a date. But I’ve just received a new reward for my flirting. A few weeks ago I wrote “Flirting with fame — and…
Dating after 40
“Is he blog worthy?”
When people learn I have a dating blog, they often ask if I blog after each date. I explain that I don’t do date reviews, but I do comment about guys I’m dating or have dated in the context of a lesson. Without real examples, I think this blog would be boring. So now people…
The 60-day relationship review
Most companies require new employees to undergo a 30-, 60-, and/or 90-day review to discuss how they are doing at their job. Typically part of the discussion is how well the employee thinks s/he is doing and what s/he likes and doesn’t like about the job. The boss then shares how she thinks the employee…
The scent of love
My friend Bruce is convinced that smell has a lot to do with dating attraction. He believes people exude a human pheromone of sorts, functioning as an attractant of the opposite sex. But since pheromone receptors have not yet been found in humans, what scent does attract us? Some women believe perfume is an attractant,…
Falling in love is like cocaine
In Wednesday’s USA Today psychiatrist Daniel Amen said, “Love is a drug. Falling in love is like taking cocaine. It works in the same center of the brain.” We all know that falling in love is euphoric. In “The addiction of dating” I likened it to drugs. I had no idea a scientist would come…
Dateless for Valentine’s?
What if you are like many who are dating — without a regular sweetie with whom to celebrate Valentine’s Day? Perhaps you’ve been dating around, but there’s no one who it makes sense to get all lovey dovey with on this, the snuggle fest of holidays. So what’s a gal to do? How about treating…
Do you feel PHAT on a date?
No, I’m not asking if you are fat. Although many midlife women are concerned about extra pounds that have accumulated through childbirth, enjoying life, heredity, and slowing metabolism. I find it interesting that most of the overweight men I’ve gone out with don’t consider themselves overweight, but near-normal-weight women often consider themselves fat. I’m talking…
The Valentine’s angst is upon us
Valentine’s Day can be stressful, no matter what your situation. If you don’t have a sweetie in your life and want one, perhaps you’re feeling some stress. One radio interviewer wanted me to help his listeners with ideas on how to get a sweetheart by Valentine’s Day. Since I’m not in the quick-hookup business, I…
Being in step with the dance of dating
A date and I met some gal pals and their hubbies at a zydeco dance club. If you’re unfamiliar with this term, the music originated in southern Louisiana. Like most dances, there is a basic step, then embellishments as you get more comfortable. None of us knew the steps so we arrived early for the…
Beware the duplicity trap
Sometimes in dating (and in life) we choose not to reveal the whole truth. We don’t lie, but we omit parts of the picture. The conundrum is whether telling the whole truth is best, including gnarly details we know will be disturbing to the other, or to reveal only what seems prudent. Last night I…
Dating’s “pre-game” activities
Have you been inundated with the Super Bowl pre-game activity options? You could easily devote the whole weekend to Super Bowl shows if you wanted. In scanning the various proceeding, it reminded me of a conversation I had recently with a single gal pal. We were talking about how important first impressions are in dating….