For two months I dated a man who told me what he paid for his Mercedes ($85,000), his Ferragamo shoes ($450), his Persian rug ($1400), his Rolex ($10,000), and his son’s PlayStation ($600), among other items. He was a wealthy man who spent less than $100 total on our weekly dates. This got me wondering…
Dating after 40
Being a good Girl Scout in dating
I loved being a Girl Scout. On meeting days I proudly wore my uniform to school and voraciously earned many badges to decorate my sash. Recently, I thought about how The Girl Scout Law affects my dating — and of course, my life philosophy. The Girl Scout Law I will do my best to be…
Make peace with your body parts
Midlife women have shared with me that they didn’t want to start dating until they lost weight and/or got in shape. Some said the thought of getting undressed in front of a man was so unnerving, they would rather not start the dating process if that was to be the end result. In “Getting naked…
“Johnny Are You Queer?”
The other day I was listening to NPR’s Terry Gross interviewing film maker John Waters (Hairspray, Pink Flamingos). Among other things, he discussed his new CD “A Date with John Waters.” It’s a compilation of love songs including “Johnny Are You Queer?” by Josie Cotton. Waters said one of the reasons he included the song…
How does music affect your dating?
Listening to my preferred radio station today, I noticed how many of my favorite songs are love ballads. Not lyrics of heartbreak and disappointment, but songs of deep caring and affection. Okay, I admit it, in addition to Luther Vandross, Marvin Gaye, Toni Braxton, Babyface, Gladys Knight and Michael Bolton, I like tunes by Barry…
Think of dating like the movie “Groundhog Day”
Remember the hilarious 1993 film “Groundhog Day”? Poor Bill Murray‘s character, Phil Connors, repeats the same day — Feb. 2, Groundhog Day — over and over and over again. But he’s aware that he’s reliving it so he begins to do different things each day, at first hedonistically, then he begins to reexamine his life…
Why men don’t tell you you’re pretty
Some men tell you they think you are attractive on the first or other early dates. Some will never tell you. For two months I dated a man who never said he thought I was attractive. In frustration at his aloofness, one day I said to him, “I don’t even know if you find me…
The art of wooing is not dead
Recently some DG readers have shared that the man they are dating practices the art of wooing. While we are very happy they found a man who understands romance and courtship, I’m sure I haven’t been the only one who wondered why I hadn’t found many (any?) who practiced this rare art form, without using…
Phone number screens dating callers for you
My friend Doug alerted me to a new service he thought would be perfect for daters (no, he’s not representing the company). It’s called GrandCentral.com. It allows you to have a free phone number in any area code you want. You can give it to guys you meet online or in person and there’s no…
Does he mention you to his pals?
Most over-40 women have close pals with whom they frequently share their dating stories and woes. If she is at all interested in him, her gal pals know about a man soon after contact is made, even if just through an email. After a date, she may share the details with more than one close…
It’s moving day!
Lately, some DG readers have shared their unwillingness to move on from a love gone sour. Sometimes they know they need to, but can’t seem to cut that last emotional thread that leaves them feeling debilitated and unable to get on with their lives. Others seem to relish wallowing in retelling how the last guy…