“When can I meet your kids?”
I have never asked a guy this. However, a woman recently shared that she asks this on the first date. Additionally she asks, "When would you be comfortable meeting mine,…
Are you a power dater? Would you be upset with one?
Another Internet dater shared that a guy she'd met online called and set a coffee date at 1:00 the following Monday. A little later, he called her again, apparently thinking…
Do you tell suitors how to make you happy?
My friend Bruce says most women don’t know how to express how a man can make her happy. Women commonly say they want nebulous characteristics, like successful, strong, communicative, fun.…
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Feeling violated
This posting has nothing to do with dating. But it is fresh on my mind. Yesterday, I did some errands midday for 2 hours. When I arrived home, the back…
Are you a good verbal hugger?
A verbal hug is a sincere acknowledgment. The usual result is that the receiver feels good. It's similar to a physical hug, but there's no touching -- except the recipient's…
Dating requires risk taking
Many women don't want to get back into the dating scene because they know it will require them to take some risks: being rejected, getting a broken heart, being hurt.…
The “Better Than Nothing” guy
In my friend Susan Page's bestselling book, If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?: Ten Strategies That Will Change Your Love Life Forever she discusses the "Better Than…
When do you tell your date about irritants?
There seem to be several camps on this: Immediately when the annoyance happens, even on the first date. Say something so he can modify his behavior. No matter how small…
Being seduced by what he is over who he is
I admit it. I've been so enticed by what a man is that it's clouded my judgment about who he is. When dating the crazy psychiatrist, I adored when he…
He wants romance; you want friendship
One of the hardest parts of dating is when one of you is interested romantically in the other, but it's not reciprocated. Whether you're on the giving or receiving end…
Assume there are other women
Most of us who employ online dating adopt a "don't ask, don't tell" philosophy about dating multiple people simultaneously. At least until we're ready to get more serious. When I…