In “Before agreeing to a weekend getaway, clarify expectations,” I told you of a weekend “romantic” getaway with a man I’d seen occasionally over seven months. A week before the outing, he sprang on me that he planned to golf Saturday. I was not pleased, but was willing to be a good sport, under the…
Dating after 40
When lost baggage is a good thing
We all carry some baggage — as in emotional baggage — when we date and enter new relationships. We all schlep some from past hurts with lovers, parents or others who were influential. Sometimes we haul hurts inflicted by strangers. I’m a little wary when a potential suitor says he has no emotional baggage. Unless…
Questions I wish I’d known to ask
I wish it weren’t so, but I’ve found that there are some questions I would have never thought to ask, that in retrospect, I would have been better off asking. I’m not sure I’d have the guts to really ask them, as who would have ever thought it would be necessary? But I’ve found that…
What was he thinking?
Today I received emails from two guys from different dating sites. Reading them, I couldn’t help but wonder, “What was he thinking? That this would be appealing to me?” See what you think. YourSlave wrote (this is how he sent it): I KISS YOUR PERFECT PALE WHITEST FEET DEAR GODDESS I WILL ACTUALLY BE IN…
Before agreeing to a weekend getaway, clarify expectations
I told an out-of-town guy I’d been seeing occasionally for 7 months that I was coming to his area for business. He said, “Why don’t you stay for the weekend and we can go away somewhere?” That sounded good to me. Since although we talked daily, we hadn’t seen each other in 3 months, I…
Giving, receiving and self-esteem
My friend Randy Gage has a new book, Why You’re DUMB, SICK, and BROKE … and How to Get SMART, HEALTHY, and RICH! While it is an interesting, well-written, thought-provoking text on how to live a more prosperous life, this passage on love stood out for me. Love is an expression of your self-esteem, and…
Beware the massage seduction
Sometimes when a man wants to get closer physically, he’ll offer you a shoulder or back massage, or he’ll just start kneading your shoulders. If you respond positively, he’ll continue. Watch out for this ploy. This happens so often, I’d swear it is taught in a “how to seduce women” class. So catch on quickly….
Walking over hot coals
When we say or hear, “I’d walk over hot coals to…” it shows unwavering commitment. Most of us would love it if a man said he’d walk over hot coals for our kiss! Well, I’ve walked over a bed of hot coals — but it wasn’t for a man. It was for me. I wasn’t…
Dating with integrity
My friend Bruce shared how he’s experienced that women he’s beginning to date lie. We agreed that telling the truth, while uncomfortable at times, is really easier in the long term. Not only are you being respectful of the other person, but you date with integrity. But what about white lies — little untruths that…
What’s your need for closure?
Do you need closure after you stop dating a guy? If you decide to end it with him, do you feel better if you let him know, rather than not returning calls or emails? If he decides to end it, do you want to have a final conversation, not just get an email or him…
Snowed in
This weekend I’m at a 3-day meeting with my all-women mastermind group. Yesterday the airport closed so we are snowed in. Luckily, we all really like each other or the prospect of being cooped up with four other women might seem unpleasant. But after being with these women for a little more than a day,…