I believe what goes around comes around. How you treat others is how you will be treated. Of course, there are always exceptions — you were cranky with someone and she went out of her way to be nice. Or you were nice, and he was mean. But generally, I believe if you are polite,…
Dating after 40
Truth is stranger than fiction
I have had a few strange encounters during my dating adventure. None of them I could have imagined. Today I was contacted by a priest! His picture showed him in black priest attire (what is that called? Vestments? Cassock?) and white collar! I assume he is Episcopalian, but who knows? It reminded me of some…
Boomerang boyfriends
Last night I got a call from a guy I had one date with four months ago. He wanted to see if I was available. I’ve had guys break up with me and a week later want to get back together. I call these Boomerang Boyfriends. You stop seeing each other for whatever reason. Perhaps…
How to say “thanks but no thanks” to online winks, flirts and teases
When someone is not a member of a dating site — or they are lazy — they float a trial balloon by clicking on “Wink” (depending on the site, these are also called flirts or teases). I am convinced some men do a rudimentary search by criteria such as “breathing” and “lives on the planet…
Chemistry, or does he make my toes curl?
Chemistry is often listed as what one wants in a relationship. However no one can seem to describe what that is. They will just “know it when they feel it.” It is attraction. For men it seems to be “I want to be intimate with this person.” For women, it can be “I feel great…
How do you greet him?
When I first started dating, I asked my dating friends, “How do you greet someone upon first meeting?” Shaking hands seems so businesslike. Doing nothing seems cold and aloof. I’ve settled on a quick hug. Since I’ve often been flirting with potential suitors by phone and email for at least a few days if not…
Dating is like Baskin-Robbins
I compare my philosophy of dating to visiting Baskin-Robbins where I ordered vanilla for 20 years (maybe it was Rocky Road at the end!). While I enjoyed vanilla, I want to try new flavors. And I didn’t want to jump from vanilla and make a commitment to butter pecan without having tasted a little pistachio,…
You’ve got to kiss a lot of …. princes!
Most of the women over 40 I talk to have become frustrated about dating because they seem to think many men are cads, players, jerks — in other words frogs! I’m here to share another view. In the last 18 months, as of today I’ve dated 56 men. No, that’s not 56 dates, but 56…