My friend George, a long-time dater and avowed bachelor until he met his soulmate 18 months ago, had a printed dating disclaimer. He says he made women read it before he slept with them. He says, “I know it’s bizarre, but I wanted them to know what they were in for.” What was in his…
Dating chemistry
Trust your instincts
Have you ever found yourself in a situation because you didn’t follow your instincts? Your gut is saying “Danger Will Robinson” but you ignore the flashing red lights. I never thought I’d have to remind myself of this sage old advice: “If something doesn’t feel right, get out of the situation — now.” I am…
“You are just too much work”
Sometimes a guy says something that stings but it shifts your perspective so it ends up for the better. We’d been seeing each other a few weeks. I enjoyed his company. Smart, funny and affectionate, he made me laugh like no one else. I thought it was going well. Then, over cocktails, he told me…
“POP!: Stand Out in Any Crowd” makes you outstanding in the dating scene
My friend, bestselling author Sam Horn, has a new book out, POP!: Stand Out in Any Crowd. At first glance, you’d think POP! is strictly a business book and says nothing of value for daters. However, that’s not the case. There’s a lot in the book you can apply to dating. Over brunch a few…
Clues a guy is just looking for a booty call
I have a new friend, the writer of “Male Call,” a syndicated newspaper columnist on “Advice From a Guy.” I asked him a question I thought might interest you. We had this exchange: DG: What are signs a guy is just looking for a booty call on the first date? MC: Wait a sec —…
Yummy is as yummy does
When my friends ask if a particular man I’m seeing is handsome, I commonly respond, “If I saw him from across the room, I wouldn’t say ‘Who’s that yummy guy?’ But the more I’m with him, the yummier he gets.” Men seem to become cuter as their personalities emerge. A man who isn’t George Clooney…
Treasure found
One of the joys I’ve experienced with online dating is discovering amazing men. I wrote about this in “Dating as networking.” A year ago, I received a well-written email from an intelligent, engaging, articulate, educated, feisty, 64-year-old man. He was older than I prefer, lives 3000 miles away, and had no picture posted. However, his…
A man to go with my wardrobe
Our lifestyle is often reflected by the clothing we’re most comfortable in, which often represents the activities we enjoy. Most of us have a range of clothing from sweats to business attire to formal apparel. We know how important first impressions are. While successful people would never show up for a job interview inappropriately dressed,…
Multi-dating pros and cons
When I’ve shared with single, dating guy pals that I’m multi-dating they say that there is a double standard. If a guy talked about having dates with multiple women, he’d be chastised and accused of being a player. Isn’t the reason for dating to find out who you click with and who you don’t? Sometimes…
Men are like shoes
Soon after I began dating, I was hunting for date shoes in my favorite shoe store, DSW (Discount Shoe Warehouse). It is a cavernous store carrying thousands of varieties. One shoe per style and color sits atop a column of that style’s variously sized boxed shoes. As I slowly cruised each long aisle scrutinizing each…
He’s baaaaack!
This phrase may conjure up images of Arnold Schwarzenegger (“The Governator”) in “The Terminator 2.” The man I’m referring to has a few of Arnold’s characteristics — an easy smile, intelligence, humor, confidence — and nice biceps! Previously I wrote about “Boomerang boyfriends.” These are guys who get back in touch after months without contact….