“I could really see us together if you lost weight”
Most of us would be incensed hearing this. I wasn't. A dear male pal, someone I'd dated briefly 18 months ago, told me this recently. We were having a heart…
Being “aggressively single”
My friend British professional speaker Graham Davies describes himself as "aggressively single." He's 44 and has a highly successful speaking business in Europe and the US. Friends tease me about…
Why do we date?
Common responses include: to have fun, romance, companionship, a family, sex, a "soft place to land," affection, love, excitement, security, marriage, a life partner, to love and be loved, and…
He had me from “You’re gorgeous!”
In "Jerry McGuire," Renee Zellweger's character tells Jerry "You had me from 'hello.'" Mine was a little different. We'd talked a few times on the phone and had nice, but…
“What’s your ring size?”
You'd think that this would be high on the list of a single woman's most-desired questions. Unfortunately, for me it was not. We'd been dating for four months, although we…
“Any booty will do”
At my professional association's conference, a long-single man I've known 10+ years stepped up his flirting with me. He's significantly younger, shorter, and geographically undesirable, as well as other characteristics…
Charm school for men?
Many times I have said that I should start a charm school for men. (And I know men who say they should do this for women.) The challenge is the…
An excuse to seduce or how important is sexual compatibility?
Really the question is, how important is finding out if you're sexual compatible early in a relationship? A guy pal told me his sister began dating a guy. She told…
Are you getting prime time from your man?
A guy pal called me on a Friday night and was surprised I was home. He knew I'd been dating a guy for a few weeks and thought I'd be…
Date turned out to be losing bet
While most daters can regale you with dates gone bad, I've been lucky enough to only have about 10% of my dates in this category. And even bad dates have…
Are you drawn to “Oscar” or “Felix”?
Do you like guys who are more Oscar-like or more like Felix? Recently, I got to test for myself. For 7 weeks I dated a guy who was a lot…