Hello — goodbye: How to say no thanks after meeting
One of the hardest parts of dating is telling your date that it isn't a match so you don't encourage him to pursue you. It is easiest to do in…
Building your Franken-boyfriend
I've fantasized about putting together my perfect man -- my Franken-boyfriend. After dating a lot of men, I've grown very fond of different parts of many. I'd like to build…
Faux beaus and practice dating
When I first began dating, I was advised to go out with nearly anyone who asked, just to practice. Since I didn't want to take advantage of anyone, I kept…
Deciding to see him again or not
Even when there isn't the immediate physical attraction or chemistry, I'll sometimes see a guy again to see if there is any underlying spark that needs a second chance to…
Guys make a great first impression with a small gift
The other day I had a first date with a guy who brought me a present -- a recent bestselling book he thought I'd like. It was a great gift,…
Tracking your date’s score
A guy begins with 100 units. He can add to these units by doing good things (e.g., calling when he says he will, being chivalrous, suggesting activities he thinks I’d…
Ambivalence
Ambivalence is the bane of the dating world. I've had plenty of pleasant dates with guys who were smart, educated, successful, attractive yet I felt if I saw him again,…
Posted inDating chemistry First-rate first dates
Good conversation is the foundation of great dating
One of the things that has stood out for me in interactions with the last four potential suitors is that guys (at least the ones I've encountered) don't know how…
A tale of two phone calls
Yesterday I had a first phone call with a potential date. While his profile was refreshing and intriguing, the conversation was strained. I tried to pull him out by asking…
Does he invite you to his place?
Yesterday a friend called: "I have a new lesson about dating." She's been dating longer than I have so I was interested in what new wisdom she'd gleaned. "Spill," I…
Posted inDating after 40 Dating chemistry
One-date wonders
You know how some groups are called "one-hit wonders" because they had one hit song and never again appeared on the Billboard charts? I have my dating version of that…