Women’s first-date blunders
In "First-date red flags that this guy isn't for you" I talked about what men do that tell you he should be released back into the dating pool. But I've…
When “be yourself” is questionable advice
Oft-heard advice to daters is, "Just be yourself." Well, what if "yourself" isn't very appealing? What if "being yourself" means showing up for a first date with disheveled hair, dirty,…
Men behaving badly
I rarely talk about "bad" dates, because if a date doesn't work out, it just wasn't meant to be. No use lingering on what didn't work or what an unpleasant…
A different kind of f-buddy
No, I am not referring to the term most commonly associated with the f-buddy phrase. I have a new meaning for f-buddy -- flirt buddy! What is a flirt buddy?…
“If you’ve got it, flaunt it!”
This was a favorite saying from my mother. Ironically, she was one of the most prudish women I've ever known, so she wasn't talking about flaunting your physical attributes. However,…
What you perceive is what you receive
I've adapted a folk tale to dating. It goes like this: On the outskirts of town, an older woman was gardening next to the road when a stranger pulls up…
Does your date nourish your mind?
In a recent article, my friend professional speaker extraordinaire Mark Sanborn wrote about relationships. He said, "Some of my best relationships ... challenge me intellectually and spiritually. Scott Peck believed…
Emotional unavailability
Many of the women I've talked to say they've dated men who were emotionally unavailable. I realized I'm not sure how to tell if a guy is emotionally available or…
Disposable dating
We live in a disposable society, where instead of fixing something, it is often easier and cheaper to throw it out and get a new one. Sometimes it appears this…
Teed off by weekend getaway with golf addict
In "Before agreeing to a weekend getaway, clarify expectations," I told you of a weekend "romantic" getaway with a man I'd seen occasionally over seven months. A week before the…
When lost baggage is a good thing
We all carry some baggage -- as in emotional baggage -- when we date and enter new relationships. We all schlep some from past hurts with lovers, parents or others…