Releasing back into the dating pool
Doesn't this phrase sound benign? Refreshing even? Can you imagine a perfect-temperatured, clear, tranquil pool, inviting you to dip your toes or immerse yourself totally in the rejuvenating water? Do…
“I only want to date someone I would marry”
A newly divorced friend was intrigued by my philosophy about dating so many men. She said, "I just couldn't do that. I don't want to date anyone I wouldn't see…
Trust your instincts
Have you ever found yourself in a situation because you didn't follow your instincts? Your gut is saying "Danger Will Robinson" but you ignore the flashing red lights. I never…
“You are just too much work”
Sometimes a guy says something that stings but it shifts your perspective so it ends up for the better. We'd been seeing each other a few weeks. I enjoyed his…
Why men go “poof”
Vanish. Disappear. Do a David Copperfield. I've pondered this a lot, as it's happened often. I've interviewed men friends. The following is what I've gleaned. If you don't hear from…
Are you getting prime time from your man?
A guy pal called me on a Friday night and was surprised I was home. He knew I'd been dating a guy for a few weeks and thought I'd be…
Qualify your potential dates before meeting
After dating now nearly 2 years, I've learned how to weed out many men who aren't good matches. Why meet and waste both our time? Men have to go through…
Breaking up is hard to do…right
In a recent NY Times article "Is It Over? Log on and See," journalist Melena Ryzik explores how many young people don't know their partner has broken up with them…
Broaching tough conversations
In talking with a married gal pal, we discussed how sometimes it is hard to bring up difficult issues to your mate. I shared that there were things in my…
Men and women see sex differently
"Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place." —Billy Crystal I am continually flummoxed by how men and women seem to see sex so totally differently.…
The sex talk
I'm surprised when a man expresses he wants to have sex, but he doesn't then initiate a discussion of protection. I guess there's an assumption condoms will be used, but…