I’ve been pleased to meet some wonderful men in my dating adventures. Sometimes I’ve been able to connect them to others in my life. A year ago I had one date with a charming, educated, articulate man who consults on doing business in Africa. We kept in contact after the date, even though he lived…
First-rate first dates
Do you have the right datewear?
Do you have the right clothes to wear on dates — datewear? I think it’s especially important to have the right kind of attire for the first meeting. You know how important first impressions are — and how you dress says a lot about you. I’ve had dates show up in unironed shirts and dirty…
What is the definition of a date?
I went to the movie yesterday with a guy I’d had a lunch date with a year ago. When I told a friend about this, I said, “I don’t know it was a date or not.” “Did he ask you to the movie?” “I don’t recall. We talked a few weeks ago and the movie…
A favorite question to ask
Dr. Phil says we don’t ask the right questions when determining if someone might be a good match for us. I’m sure he’s right. I now have a list of questions I *wish* I’d asked, which I’ll post later. One of my favorite questions to ask tells me a lot about the man. I explain…
Have a good memory to avoid repeating mistakes
Today a nice-looking man emailed me. Based on his profile, he would be someone I would be interested in getting to know. He met most of my criteria. However, as I looked at his picture, I felt I had seen it before. Had he appeared in my matches before? If so, I would have contacted…
Honesty is not always the best policy
No, I am not suggesting you lie. I am suggesting, however, that there are times when full honesty is not the best at the time. For example, full disclosure is not always necessary on a first date. I’ve had guys tell me they were still living with their wives, had been adulterers, were being sued…
Start with coffee
New online daters have shared that they are concerned about accepting a date with someone and as soon as they meet him, they know he is not a match. If the plan is for dinner, dancing, lunch or hiking, they know the are in for hours of making polite conversation with someone they know is…
Dating is like house hunting
“He who hesitates is a damned fool.” —Mae West My friend Ken Braly wrote a hilarious piece, “Finding A House, Finding A Spouse” (posted in the Pages section) about how dating is like shopping for a home. I see this parallel. If you are shopping for a new home, you would want to see properties…
No rules for dating after 40
I was sharing my dating life with a married friend. She said she was glad she wasn’t dating now because there are no rules. When she was dating (40 years ago) there were rules. “Like what?” I asked. “No kissing on the first date.” “Really?” I responded incredulously. “I’ve had some fantastic kisses on the…
Dr. Jekyll/Ms. Hyde: Start the date on the right foot
Yesterday a male friend told me how his last date lasted 5 minutes. He’s an affable, considerate, tolerant guy, so I couldn’t imagine what could go wrong in 5 minutes. He said he’d had great, fun, pleasant, in-depth phone conversations with the woman, then asked her to a high-end restaurant for dinner. Nearly immediately after…
Long-distance suitor and the first date
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder— of somebody else.” —Anonymous A man who lives 400 miles away has been flirting with me for months and calls every day. He decided he would fly to my city this weekend to meet me. He’d get a car and a hotel room, so there would be no discomfort…