Where are you on the relationship recovery path?
DG reader Devon wrote: All divorced people are in a different place along the post-divorce road. I met someone wonderful last summer, attraction, chemistry, great sex, good conversation and we…
Good first-date advice from a gay man
The following was written by Brian Rzepczynski, "The Gay Love Coach" but the concepts apply to heterosexual relationships as well. I thought his concepts were so good, I wanted to…
Looking for a connection
"I've had a lot of sex in my life. I'm looking for a connection. Sex is an important element in a long-term relationship, but it's not the only important thing."…
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Can an ambitious gal find happiness with a lackadaisical guy?
Bev, a DG reader, shared: I met a guy a couple months ago, and I really like him. He is everything I could possibly ask for, except for one thing,…
Prince Considerate
Many women refer to their perfect man as Prince Charming. We want someone who is likable and knows what to say to get along with others. But charm can also…
When should you disclose any, er, unusual preferences?
I was once contacted by a man who said in his profile that he was "slightly kinky." When I asked what he meant exactly, he said he’d explain in person.…
Is he collecting data on how to make you happy?
I briefly dated a man who interspersed into our conversations a myriad of questions about my preferences. He asked about my favorite flower, gemstone, color, fabric, musical artist, book genre,…
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Marriage as a business deal?
I received an email about a presumably true Craigslist personals ad by a 25-year-old attractive ("stunningly beautiful") NYC woman wanting advice on how to meet and marry a man who…
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Falling in love one drop at a time
Have you noticed that people fall in love with varying rapidity? For some, it's a wham, all-at-once thing soon -- sometimes minutes -- after meeting someone. For others, it may…
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Is your date sensitive to your comfort?
In "Before agreeing to a weekend getaway, clarify expectations" I shared how I've learned to ask better questions before going on an outing. So I asked a few when a…
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“Ninny-ness”
A gal pal says that when you're enamored, smitten, enraptured, enthralled, and/or mesmerized with someone, you become a ninny. Your brain is not fully engaged. You do and say things…