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Does he want a “mommy”?
Some midlife women complain that some men they've dated want someone to take care of them -- a mommy. Of course, in a Oedipal twist, they also want her to…
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Are you too picky?
A friend chided me, "You've gone out with 75 men in 2 years. Why aren't you married? Are you too picky?" When midlife women share that they haven't found their…
How hard must a man work to get a date with you?
Some women play hard to get on purpose. Some just end up being hard to get because of circumstances. What if a man asked you out 28 times before you…
Do you love how he loves you?
Do you know how you want to be loved? What if a man loves you, but not quite the way you want to be loved? Will you stick with him,…
“I don’t want a whipped boyfriend”
These words were uttered by my neighbor's 16-year-old daughter as we were discussing dating. The three of us were sharing the nice things men we dated had done for us…
Are you arguing your limitations?
Midlife women sometimes passionately, convincingly, compellingly tell me why no man would be interested in dating them. "Men aren't interested in a woman like me who has wrinkles, bags, extra…
Do your activity preferences match your guy’s?
Are you clear on how much you like to weekly participate in activities with a sweetie? How much alone time do you want/need? How much time do you want weekly/monthly…
Are you dating the same guy in different bodies?
You may be familiar with the poem "There's a Hole in My Sidewalk: Autobiography in Five Short Chapters" by Portia Nelson (pictured at right). In the poem, Ms. Nelson concisely illustrates how…
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What’s your idea of boyfriend responsibilities?
"Boyfriend responsibilities" are not the same as "marital duties," but the latter can be included in the former. My sweetie and I were discussing boyfriend responsibilities during his visit this…
Do your friends birddog for you?
By "birddog" I am not referring to Labrador Retrievers, English Pointers, or German Shorthaired Pointers. However, I am referring to their ability to find and point out what you are…
The date relationship test
I've discovered a key relationship test. This one is guaranteed to tell you what you need to know about your guy, so I recommend using this test early in the…