In Wednesday’s USA Today psychiatrist Daniel Amen said, “Love is a drug. Falling in love is like taking cocaine. It works in the same center of the brain.” We all know that falling in love is euphoric. In “The addiction of dating” I likened it to drugs. I had no idea a scientist would come…
Dateless for Valentine’s?
What if you are like many who are dating — without a regular sweetie with whom to celebrate Valentine’s Day? Perhaps you’ve been dating around, but there’s no one who it makes sense to get all lovey dovey with on this, the snuggle fest of holidays. So what’s a gal to do? How about treating…
Do you feel PHAT on a date?
No, I’m not asking if you are fat. Although many midlife women are concerned about extra pounds that have accumulated through childbirth, enjoying life, heredity, and slowing metabolism. I find it interesting that most of the overweight men I’ve gone out with don’t consider themselves overweight, but near-normal-weight women often consider themselves fat. I’m talking…
The Valentine’s angst is upon us
Valentine’s Day can be stressful, no matter what your situation. If you don’t have a sweetie in your life and want one, perhaps you’re feeling some stress. One radio interviewer wanted me to help his listeners with ideas on how to get a sweetheart by Valentine’s Day. Since I’m not in the quick-hookup business, I…
Being in step with the dance of dating
A date and I met some gal pals and their hubbies at a zydeco dance club. If you’re unfamiliar with this term, the music originated in southern Louisiana. Like most dances, there is a basic step, then embellishments as you get more comfortable. None of us knew the steps so we arrived early for the…
Beware the duplicity trap
Sometimes in dating (and in life) we choose not to reveal the whole truth. We don’t lie, but we omit parts of the picture. The conundrum is whether telling the whole truth is best, including gnarly details we know will be disturbing to the other, or to reveal only what seems prudent. Last night I…
Dating’s “pre-game” activities
Have you been inundated with the Super Bowl pre-game activity options? You could easily devote the whole weekend to Super Bowl shows if you wanted. In scanning the various proceeding, it reminded me of a conversation I had recently with a single gal pal. We were talking about how important first impressions are in dating….
Are you enjoying the banquet of dating?
My friend, world class photojournalist, author, former National Geographic photographer and Academy Award-nominated director, Dewitt Jones is also an entrancing speaker. His presentations are illustrated with his riveting photos as he makes his points on creativity, leadership, vision and passion. In a presentation I heard over 15 years ago, one of his phrases still reverberates:…
The dangers of idealization
On a third date, a guy and I were sharing how well we both felt we got along and how well matched we seemed to be. He surprised me when he said, “Don’t idealize me.” I hadn’t been. I was clear on his imperfections, yet was enjoying the parts that I liked. It can be…
“What’s in your wallet?”
While this has become an advertising slogan for a credit card company, I hope you don’t say it to a man you’re dating. Just as most women protectively guard the contents of their purses from inquisitive eyes, men protect the contents of their wallets. So imagine my surprise when a CEO I was coaching asked…
Facing fear in dating
Recently, I had a coffee date to meet a new guy. I noticed myself feeling a bit nervous beforehand, something I hadn’t felt in a while. I wondered if he would be nice or would he ditch me within a few minutes. Would there be that wonderful spark I’ve felt on a few first meetings,…