In “What’s your definition of romance?” we talked about specific activities that most women consider romantic. However, I’ve been thinking more about what comprises romance. Then I got this question from a male reader in response to the posting “The Valentine’s angst is upon us“: I have some angst about Valentine’s Day. It is a…
All you need is love?
The other day I had coffee with a man I dated briefly a year ago and with whom I’ve stayed in touch. As we were catching up, he chided me for not having an elective medical procedure that he thinks is important and I think is less so. When he pressed why I hadn’t done…
What’s your date’s score on the Delight/Disappointment Scale?
Competitive people keep score. They note accumulated points and penalties. I think we unconsciously do this with our dates. So I’ve devised a chart to illustrate what usually happens in our minds. We track the things we like and weigh them against the things we don’t like or are disappointed by. Sometimes these disappointments are…
Midlife men have forgotten how to date
Swapping dating stories with a guy pal, I said, based on my observations, it seems many midlife men have forgotten how to date and be with a woman. He agreed. He hasn’t been in a relationship in a few years and he’s so used to being single he admits he’s forgotten some dating skills. This…
Have you built a fortress around your heart?
If we’ve been hurt in love, it is easy to say, “I’m not going to let that happen again.” We close off our heart, building a wall around it so no one can get close. The pain is too great. We don’t want to feel like that ever again. We do whatever we can so…
Romancing the media on Valentine’s Day
After my posting yesterday on “You are loved!” I certainly felt the love from many sources, including an unexpected one — the media! So excuse me, dear readers, but allow me to share my excitement. The Wall Street Journal quoted me in an article, “High-Tech Breakups Are Quick But Inflict a Special Pain; Getting Even…
You are loved!
Happy Valentine’s Day! The spirit of Valentine’s Day is to show others you care about them and, in turn, others will show that you are loved. However, sometimes we need to step back and see how love shows up in our lives in subtle ways. It’s easy to focus on only romantic love on this…
The sweet rewards of flirting
Usually flirting’s rewards are putting a smile on someone else’s face as well as your own, sharing a laugh and connection, enjoying the moment, and sometimes getting a hug, a kiss, or a date. But I’ve just received a new reward for my flirting. A few weeks ago I wrote “Flirting with fame — and…
“Is he blog worthy?”
When people learn I have a dating blog, they often ask if I blog after each date. I explain that I don’t do date reviews, but I do comment about guys I’m dating or have dated in the context of a lesson. Without real examples, I think this blog would be boring. So now people…
The 60-day relationship review
Most companies require new employees to undergo a 30-, 60-, and/or 90-day review to discuss how they are doing at their job. Typically part of the discussion is how well the employee thinks s/he is doing and what s/he likes and doesn’t like about the job. The boss then shares how she thinks the employee…
The scent of love
My friend Bruce is convinced that smell has a lot to do with dating attraction. He believes people exude a human pheromone of sorts, functioning as an attractant of the opposite sex. But since pheromone receptors have not yet been found in humans, what scent does attract us? Some women believe perfume is an attractant,…