Tag: online dating advice

No, I haven’t found the man of my dreams. Which means you’ll keep getting entries to this blog.

What I’m talking about is, the Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 books are ready!

I’ve culled years of favorite postings and divided them into areas critical to embracing dating after 40 as an adventure. Which, since you’ve read the blog, you know is key to keeping your spirits up during your search for The One. They are a mix of information (like “Women’s First Date Blunders”), examples (“Did He Break Up With You and Just Not Tell You?”) and funny stories (“Knight and Day”), all based on my being aggressively single since my divorce, having now dated 95 men the past few years.

But maybe you’ve found your “One.” If so, congratulations! I’m happy for you!

If you’re still searching, then these books will help you in specific areas — getting ready to date, clarifying why you’re a great catch, defining who you want as your next mate, putting your toe in the dating water, online dating, checking a man out before agreeing to go out, understanding what makes men tick, making sure your first date isn’t a waste of time, dating several men simultaneously, deciding whether to keep seeing someone, surviving break ups with grace, working through challenges — even sex!

Each book has been vetted by editors and age-appropriate dating readers to make sure each is relevant and high quality. Readers reported they’ve enjoyed their “date” with the books, which are between 100 and 228 pages each. The chapters are short and easy to read. You’ll probably recognize some of the ones you’ve read on the blog. If so, maybe it’s time for a refresher.

If you’ve already found your “One,” perhaps you have loved ones considering beginning or engaged in the search. These books would be a loving gift of encouragement for them.

You can get autographed copies by ordering today. Right now, Date or Wait: Are You Ready for Mr. Great? is available in soft-cover and eBook. All the other titles are available as eBooks. So when you order Date or Wait tell me on the check-out page to whom you want it autographed. If you order more than one copy of Date or Wait (and I’ll kiss you if you do!), just give me all the names.

Since the soft-cover version of Date or Wait is at the printer and will be shipped to us in the next few weeks, we’re going to send you the eBook version immediately — for free!* We’ll send your autographed soft-cover copy of that title as soon as it’s off the press. In the meantime, you can dive into the eBook version, as well as the other eBook titles.

BTW, we’ve offered deep discounts for multiple titles ordered. It’s all explained here.

These books are perfect for Valentine’s Day, since our thoughts go to love and romance. So if you aren’t seeing someone special, give yourself a gift that will have more value than buying yourself flowers and chocolate (and you know that means a lot since I LOVE chocolate!). And if you have midlife single women friends, this is perfect for their Valentine’s gift from you!

As my thank you for purchasing, with your order of any title you receive** the 141-page eBook, Attract Your Next Great Mate: Dating Advice From Top Relationship Experts. Twelve dating/relationship experts contributed to this eBook offering a spectrum of ideas on how to attract your “One” into your life.

Thanks for your support! Tell your friends!

Dating Goddess

P.S.: Read Jeff Mac’s (of Manslations fame) review of Date or Wait.

P.P.S: Read The Seductress Within’s review of Date or Wait.

* Upon checkout, you’ll immediately receive an email with the link for downloading. If you’re ordering multiple copies of Date or Wait, just email your recipients the link and tell them the physical copy will be sent to you soon.

** Download instructions are in every book.

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Jeff Mac has just released a brilliant book, Manslations: Decoding the Secret Language of Men.

(Full disclosure: Mac is a pal of mine, having formed a pal-ship through our blogs. We have a bit of a mutual admiration society, so perhaps my review of his book is a tad tainted. But I will try to be objective.)

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Since I’m in Dubai, I thought I’d take an Arabian tale and apply it to dating.

A Bedouin tied his camel outside his tent and retired for the night. It is unusually cold, so the camel sticks his nose under the tent and asks, “Master, may I keep my nose warm?” The master thinks, what’s the harm? “Sure. You may put your nose in my tent.”

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You are, no doubt, expecting me to tell you of a fabulously wealthy shaikh who has swept me off my feet during my visit here. I’ve only been here 2 days, but no one has been enamored with me yet.

In fact, the local authorities block access to Match.com and other dating sites. Although www.uaedating.com did come up in a Google search. Not that I’m interested in joining, but just for research purposes, of course. They have a total of 1440 male members and 335 female members. I don’t think this is promising, although I do like the ratio.

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Are you likely to webcam chat with a man you haven’t met? There can be pros and cons.

I don’t encourage web chats — in fact, I refuse to turn on my webcam even though it’s built into my computer. But potential suitors turn theirs on, so who am I to refuse their invitation?

The video component gives you a much better sense of the man than static photos — some of which are often decades old. You can see his facial expressions, how he laughs, and what part of his home looks like.

And it can create a sense of connectedness — which can be good or not.

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When a man says, “Let’s get together Saturday night,” do you take that as a possibility or a promise?

I take it as a promise. If he says, “Let’s do lunch sometime,” as many acquaintances do, I view that as a possibility — a remote one, more of a nicety than necessity. No fixed date is stated. But giving a time frame, even if no specific time, is a promise in my mind.

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You are probably thinking, “Who needs proof that men lose their ability to think when they are aroused?” We know this anecdotally, and men will agree, so we’re not man bashing. But in his book Predictably Irrational author Dan Ariely cites a study he conducted that gives us empirical evidence.

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Sometimes we get lessons on dating — and life — from unusual sources.

The sand painter arrived early for the demonstration at the Arizona resort. He looked different than I expected — I made the stereotypical assumption that the demo would be by a Native American. He was not.
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People often ask why I continue to communicate with new men after I’ve met one for coffee, or even accepted a second date. Why, they ask, don’t I just stop communicating with others and stay focused on one at a time?

Dating is, to some degree, a numbers game.

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I know — usually it’s three strikes before someone is out. But in dating sometimes all you need are two interactions with a man to decide he’s out.
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