In “Understanding the stage your guy is in” I told you about Alison Armstrong’s study of what makes men tick and her subsequent “Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women®” workshops. I attended the free introductory program and not only confirmed some of what I’d learned on my own, but got some refinements and new information as well….
Dating after 40
Are you a generous conversationalist?
This weekend I had the opportunity to be with a handful of extremely smart, highly accomplished executive women friends. I noticed two things about our conversations: Some of the women add to the conversation only what they think would be of interest to others, not whatever crosses their mind at the moment. Some of the…
The purrrrfect partner
I had a new guy in my bed last night. He was sweet, affectionate and cute. He begged and begged. It’s not the first time I’ve fallen for a persuasive male. However, I didn’t even know his name until the morning when we awoke wrapped around each other. And I didn’t learn it from him….
Yes, it is all about you
Yesterday, Price Considerate shared that in a moment of candor one of his mentees disclosed he was first put off by PC, in part because that day PC’s shoes didn’t match his pants. PC explained to him that sometimes he doesn’t pay as much attention to those details as he should, but he didn’t get…
Dating Goddess has moved
I have now moved my blog to my own site https://datinggoddess.com. For some of you this may be transparent, as I’ve had this URL redirected to the WordPress host for a long time. But in case you haven’t saved it as the above URL, please do so. Or better yet, subscribe via RSS. In response…
The man-sieve
Unless you live in a remote area, there are eligible, age-appropriate single men all around you. You have developed a filter for either attracting them or not, or accepting or rejecting date requests. Before you began dating you may have said, “I don’t really know what I want, so I’ll go out with anyone who…
Noticing what’s positively eliminated
In relationships — even dating relationships — you often discover behaviors in the other that drive you batty. These behaviors aren’t deal breakers, just minor annoyances. So you non-judgmentally share your irritation with your guy and ask him if he would be willing to work on reducing this. He is accommodating, apologizes for it whatever…
Does he know what turns you on?
Does the guy you’re dating know what turns you on? Or does he make assumptions based on what turns him on? Today I received a bawdy video emailed from an old beau turned friend. It was clips of naked, buxom women playing various sports — gymnastics, calisthenics, etc. He thought it would turn me on….
Being played by a pathological liar
I think of myself as a good judge of character. I usually trust my gut and can often feel when something isn’t right. If something doesn’t make sense, I question it. While I generally trust people and look for the good in them, I am also skeptical. I am not easily fooled. But he did…
What kind of tree are you?
Spending six days over the holiday with a two-decade-married couple gave me ample opportunity to watch their relationship up close for days on end. Usually when we visit friends or relatives we spend from several hours to a few days with them. When others are around, most of us are on our best behavior. Only…
The downsides of always getting your way
We’ve discussed how a mature, sane man generally wants to make you happy. But how can always getting what you want make you unhappy? A fellow strong woman and I were discussing this recently. “While I appreciate that my man is interested in making me happy, sometimes it can be a weight,” she shared. “In…