Hold your hands in front of you. Notice if your ring finger is longer than your index (pointing) finger. Are they the same size? If so, or if your ring finger is shorter, you’re a typical woman. If the ring finger is longer, you’re atypical. Ask your next date to do this test. The size…
Dating after 40
Review of “Flings, Frolics And Forever Afters”
Flings, Frolics And Forever Afters: A Single Woman’s Guide to Romance After Fifty by Katherine Chaddock and Emilie Chaddock Egan These sisters/coauthors have written an easy-to-read work designed to help over-50 women get their attitude in order to enter the dating field successfully. While there isn’t a lot new in the book, it is one…
My dating site “friends”
“He looks so familiar,” I think, looking at the man in front of me at the coffee counter. “How might I know him?” My internal search engine Googled my mind looking for a reference to him from one of my social circles. Nothing snapped into place. Until… “Match.com,” I silently exclaimed. “This guy winked at…
Using Angel Cards in dating
At the risk of your thinking I’m too woo-woo (I am woo-woo, but balance it with pragmatism), I want to suggest you consider using Angel Cards as part of your dating experience. It is a bit over the top woo-woo to suggest you use them as a predictive tool, but you can use them as…
Tips for men
In his column last week, my friend who writes “Male Call” for the San José Mercury News gave practical tips on how men can be more appealing to women. At the end of the column he asked women to send their suggestions. Wanting to be a helpful pal, here’s what I sent him, and he…
Book of women’s fantasy men doing chores
Porn for Women is a book designed to redefine what women think of as porn. It is a fun photo book featuring hunky men doing what many women dream about — housework, cooking, listening, asking for directions — all while clothed. At least mostly clothed. There are some shots of the four cute male models…
Does he treat you like his ex?
The question is really, “Does the guy you’re dating treat you like he treated his ex wife?” Not the way he currently treats his ex wife, as he could treat her better or worse than when they were together. But does he behave the way he did when they were together? Let me give you…
The dating profile fudge factor
I may have led you astray. In “You are (probably) more attractive than you think you are!,” I based my comments on the observation that most midlife women I know think of themselves as less attractive than others rate them. And men tend to overstate their attractiveness. But a study reported in “Freakonomics: A Rogue…
What women need from a man before having sex
Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40 co-authors Gloria MacDonald and Thelma Beam interviewed midlife women and asked how they knew they wanted to have sex with a specific man. Filtering through the answers, they came up with some commonalities for the women’s description of chemistry, a term that seems elusive. The components…
Dating data a dose of reality
Laws of the Jungle: Dating for Women Over 40 by Gloria MacDonald and Thelma Beam I found this to be one of the most interesting books on midlife dating I’ve read in a long while. It is co-written by a matchmaker specializing in people over 40 (Gloria MacDonald), and a couples therapist (Thelma Beam). They…
The sting of rejection
Unless you have really thick skin, nearly all rejection has a little sting. Even from someone you aren’t really interested in! If you email a guy and he responds, even with a nice “Thank you, but we’re not a match,” that has a mosquito-size sting. You’re over it in a nanosecond. You might not even…