After dating now nearly 2 years, I’ve learned how to weed out many men who aren’t good matches. Why meet and waste both our time? Men have to go through a few hoops to earn a date with me — even if it’s just a coffee date. I have more invitations than I have time…
Dating after 40
The singles’ life: swapping sexual favors for … dog sitting!
A former flame recently told me an old girlfriend, who ended their relationship extremely badly, asked if he’d take care of her dogs while she’s on vacation. When he said yes, but wouldn’t accept any money for it, she offered to give him sexual services in exchange for dog sitting. She’d even designed a sexual-favors…
Would you lie to get laid?
My friend Ian Percy pointed out that in Sue Pelletier’s blog entry “What’s your backstory?” she discusses the Dentyne “Happy Hunting” guide to help young men and women seem more attractive to each other. For example, it gives some fake stories you can use to impress the other sex (e.g., you were in a commercial…
Judging a guy by how well he … punctuates
I was chatting with my friend Jeff Rubin (The Newsletter Guy) about dating profiles and punctuation today. “Punctuation?” you ask. “That’s a weird topic.” Not to Jeff and other of my friends. You see, Jeff started National Punctuation Day (Sept. 24) to call attention to the importance of proper punctuation. The book Eats, Shoots &…
Date turned out to be losing bet
While most daters can regale you with dates gone bad, I’ve been lucky enough to only have about 10% of my dates in this category. And even bad dates have had some learning for me. This one, some months ago, helped me create the “only coffee first date” rule. After seeing the movie “Dreamer: Inspired…
No, I will not be dating your Harley
I am often amazed at the pictures guys post in their profiles. After nearly two years of online man shopping — looking at profiles — I shouldn’t be surprised anymore. But based on all the pictures of men with their motorcycles, these must be babe magnets. I’ve even seen men post 12 pictures of their…
Breaking up is hard to do…right
In a recent NY Times article “Is It Over? Log on and See,” journalist Melena Ryzik explores how many young people don’t know their partner has broken up with them until they see his/her MySpace status changed to “single.” She points out that the status change often quickly follows a spat — but sometimes it’s…
Dear Fido
This guy kept coming to the top of my matches on one of the dating sites, so after a few months I decided to initiate contact. But I did so with his dog mentioned in his profile, which we’ll call “Fido” to protect his — and his owner’s — identity. The things mentioned are references…
Are you drawn to “Oscar” or “Felix”?
Do you like guys who are more Oscar-like or more like Felix? Recently, I got to test for myself. For 7 weeks I dated a guy who was a lot like Jack Klugman‘s character Oscar Madison in “The Odd Couple.” While a very sweet, smart, affectionate, attentive guy, he always looked rumpled. He was even…
Broaching tough conversations
In talking with a married gal pal, we discussed how sometimes it is hard to bring up difficult issues to your mate. I shared that there were things in my marriage that I wish I’d brought up, but instead kept them to myself. She agreed that she was withholding some difficult topics in her relationship…
Do you tend to your relationships the same as your plants?
While visiting a guy I’m dating, I had some free time as he was BBQing dinner. I noticed some of his patio plants needed a little cleaning up. I asked him if I could tend to them and he said sure. As I began to clean out the spent blooms and dried leaves, it struck…