Dating takes time
I continue to be surprised when people don't seem to understand that dating takes time. It takes hours to sort through potential matches, contact them, email and talk on the…
Is that you? Pictures are just a rough facsimile of the real thing
When I was first dating, I wouldn't respond to someone if their picture wasn't appealing, even if they sent an articulate, fun email. I also turned down any contact who…
Deciding to see him again or not
Even when there isn't the immediate physical attraction or chemistry, I'll sometimes see a guy again to see if there is any underlying spark that needs a second chance to…
Courage and dating
"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage." —Anais Nin Last night in a class I'm taking, I briefly shared my story about how I've come to reenter the…
From hurt to flirt
When my husband of 20 years left me I was stunned. I didn't see it coming. After crying in a fetal position for a week, I had a talk with…
Dating angels
What is a dating angel? No, not the person you are dating -- although some of them can be angelic. A dating angel is a stranger who helps you feel…
Guys make a great first impression with a small gift
The other day I had a first date with a guy who brought me a present -- a recent bestselling book he thought I'd like. It was a great gift,…
Tracking your date’s score
A guy begins with 100 units. He can add to these units by doing good things (e.g., calling when he says he will, being chivalrous, suggesting activities he thinks I’d…
A tale of two phone calls
Yesterday I had a first phone call with a potential date. While his profile was refreshing and intriguing, the conversation was strained. I tried to pull him out by asking…
Does he invite you to his place?
Yesterday a friend called: "I have a new lesson about dating." She's been dating longer than I have so I was interested in what new wisdom she'd gleaned. "Spill," I…
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One-date wonders
You know how some groups are called "one-hit wonders" because they had one hit song and never again appeared on the Billboard charts? I have my dating version of that…