These words were uttered by my neighbor’s 16-year-old daughter as we were discussing dating. The three of us were sharing the nice things men we dated had done for us when she blurted this out. I was surprised, as I didn’t think any of the examples we shared would be considered signs of a man…
Dating chemistry
Virtually falling for a guy
I mean “virtually” two ways: As the dictionary defines it: “nearly, almost” as in not really; and Via the computer and/or phone; not face to face. My neighbor and I were once again comparing dating notes. She’s dipped her toe in the dating water a bit the last 6 months, going out with a handful…
What makes you feel sexy?
In “What is sexy?” I asked you to explore what you think is sexy in a man. Now I’d like you to identify what makes you feel sexy. For some women, it is when they feel fit and healthy. When they neglect their workout routine, they feel sluggish and not at the top of their…
Falling in …????
You’ve begun to date a guy you like. Each encounter makes you like him more. He’s funny, thoughtful, smart, romantic. He cares about making you happy. He’s not self-absorbed. He sends you sweet, caring emails and gives you sincere compliments. You find yourself falling in…??? What? What is this? Like? Are you falling in like?…
Help your date notice his riches
Benjamin Disraeli said: “The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but to reveal to him his own.” In the context of dating and relationships, I read this as being willing to share your skills and talents with your date without hiding any part of you. In “Do…
What’s your definition of a PDA?
No, I’m not talking about a Personal Digital Assistant, like a Blackberry or Palm. I’m referring to Public Displays of Affection. In online profiles people often say they are comfortable or like PDAs. I state this in mine. But I’ve learned that people have different definitions of this term. For some, it means hand holding,…
Beyond getting lucky: Boomer dating tips that will make even leprechauns leap for love
So you’ve been unlucky in love. You think maybe this St. Patrick’s Day the luck of the Irish will rub off on you. But you’re not really interested in getting “lucky” with a one-night stand. You’d like more. You’d like a long-term relationship. So how do you begin? Get out your lucky charm — you!…
Do you like who you’re being when with your date?
People often use the phrase, “He made me feel (bad, stupid, ugly, fat, angry, good, sexy, pretty).” The truth is, no one makes you feel anything. You choose to feel that way. Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one makes you feel inferior without your consent.” And that goes for any other emotion. However, you can react…
What’s your communication compatibility?
For 2.5 days I visited a relative I love dearly. However, it drove me crazy that she incessantly second guessed what I was doing. When I was packing, she suggested other ways to pack. She asked questions that I thought were superfluous (e.g., “What did you have for lunch?” “Will you and your boyfriend get…
What melts your heart?
We all dream of someone who melts our heart. And when he does or says those liquefying actions or words, his flaws seem to dim. We are drawn to him more. We feel ourselves rising a bit more towards love. What are not just things you like, but things that make your heart soften? Are…
How to introduce your midlife flame to colleagues?
My sweetie and I were talking about a function we will be attending with his professional colleagues. He asked, “How shall I introduce you to my associates and co-workers? What shall I call you? I want to tell them of our relationship when I introduce you as my — what?” We wanted to use the…