At the risk of your thinking I’m too woo-woo (I am woo-woo, but balance it with pragmatism), I want to suggest you consider using Angel Cards as part of your dating experience. It is a bit over the top woo-woo to suggest you use them as a predictive tool, but you can use them as…
Are you ready for Mr. Great?
Tips for men
In his column last week, my friend who writes “Male Call” for the San José Mercury News gave practical tips on how men can be more appealing to women. At the end of the column he asked women to send their suggestions. Wanting to be a helpful pal, here’s what I sent him, and he…
The dating profile fudge factor
I may have led you astray. In “You are (probably) more attractive than you think you are!,” I based my comments on the observation that most midlife women I know think of themselves as less attractive than others rate them. And men tend to overstate their attractiveness. But a study reported in “Freakonomics: A Rogue…
What to wear to build rapport?
I have a date with a new guy tonight — an advertising agency owner who lives in a nearby laid-back resort town. We had a fun, interesting first conversation two days ago and he asked me to join him for dinner at a midrange restaurant. Now I must figure out what to wear. I think…
Timing is everything
You know the old adage that the secret to comedy is timing? The same is true in dating. We seek the mate of our dreams. So we date. And we date. And we date. We get frustrated. “Why can’t I find a great guy?” we ask ourselves. We get tired of going out on dates…
Conflicting dating advice
Do you experience conflicting dating advice from relationship “experts” and/or savvy friends? I do. While I share my insights, lessons and yes, sometimes advice on this blog, there are many issues about dating I’m still figuring out. A current dilemma is around whether to cook for a potential suitor I had several dates with many…
The strong vs. nice woman debate
Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl — A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship by Sherry Argov First, let me allow the author to explain the title, as it is somewhat off putting to those of us who don’t relish being referred to as bitches. Argov writes “I’m not recommending…
Belief in a wreath
I recently read about a Lithuanian summer solstice ritual where at midnight unmarried women toss leaf and flower wreaths into rivers. The belief is that their wreath will be pulled out downriver by the man of their dreams. Were it this easy to telegraph to the man of our dreams that we are available and…
If you’re in the public eye, be careful how you behave in dating
Sometimes I get flummoxed by how people behave. I wonder, “What would motivate someone to…” or “How could they possibly think that this behavior is acceptable… or “Doesn’t she have a clue how this would affect her reputation?” I’m even more flummoxed with people’s — okay, men’s — behavior in dating. I’m sure women do…
Making the rounds
I feel like a doctor making her hospital rounds checking on patients. But instead of looking in on Mr. Hernandez after his gallbladder surgery, or Mrs. Fukumoto after her hemorrhoid removal, I check on D1ForU, DreamBeau, LoverBoy1951. I go from Match.com to YahooPersonals to Chemistry.com to SoulMate to see if I have any emails or…
“Why Men Leave Home”
Last night I watched the 1951 B-film “Why Men Leave Home.” I found it on the Blockbuster site and was interested to see what messages women were given a half-century ago about beauty and relationships, and how these messages have changed — or not. The plot in a nutshell: A “dowdy” woman puts housework ahead…