Midlife women sometimes passionately, convincingly, compellingly tell me why no man would be interested in dating them. “Men aren’t interested in a woman like me who has wrinkles, bags, extra pounds and hot flashes,” she may start. “They’re only interested in girls half their age. And forget anyone wanting a feisty, intelligent, educated woman like…
Are you ready for Mr. Great?
What makes you feel sexy?
In “What is sexy?” I asked you to explore what you think is sexy in a man. Now I’d like you to identify what makes you feel sexy. For some women, it is when they feel fit and healthy. When they neglect their workout routine, they feel sluggish and not at the top of their…
Help your date notice his riches
Benjamin Disraeli said: “The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but to reveal to him his own.” In the context of dating and relationships, I read this as being willing to share your skills and talents with your date without hiding any part of you. In “Do…
When midlife dating is like high school
Perhaps you haven’t dated in a while and now you’re beginning to go out. You meet a guy who seems great and he seems to like you too. You have a good time together. Suddenly you find yourself smitten. If he’s said he’ll call you tomorrow afternoon, you wait around the house all afternoon and…
Are parts of you excellent?
Ashleigh Brilliant writes clever sayings that make you laugh or think. Part of his, well, brilliance is that the sayings are limited to a maximum of 17 words. He is one of the most widely-quoted living writers, and also the highest-paid (per word). One of my favorite Pot Shots (which his musings are called) is…
Are you dating the same guy in different bodies?
You may be familiar with the poem “There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk: Autobiography in Five Short Chapters” by Portia Nelson (pictured at right). In the poem, Ms. Nelson concisely illustrates how we make choices, have an unpleasant experience, and blame others. Then we learn from our experiences, take responsibility for our choices, and ultimately make different…
Do your friends birddog for you?
By “birddog” I am not referring to Labrador Retrievers, English Pointers, or German Shorthaired Pointers. However, I am referring to their ability to find and point out what you are looking for. The verb “birddog” is common in sales. When someone birddogs for you, s/he is providing you leads to prospects. When I was president…
Makeover miracle worker
Sometimes in dating we begin to doubt our attractiveness, especially if we have a series of first dates and no second ones, or it seems difficult to get even a coffee date. I believe most women think they are plainer than they are, as I said in “You are (probably) more attractive than you think…
The date relationship test
I’ve discovered a key relationship test. This one is guaranteed to tell you what you need to know about your guy, so I recommend using this test early in the relationship to decide if you want to keep seeing him or not. What is the test? Picking a DVD together at Blockbuster. Why is this…
Be willing to retry activities you think you don’t like
Part of the fun of dating is trying new things that your date suggests. If you have the attitude of “I don’t like that” even though you haven’t tried it for 10, 20, or 30 years, you’ll kill the enthusiasm your date has for planning activities. And you’ll deprive yourself of expanding your horizons. Let’s…
Beyond getting lucky: Boomer dating tips that will make even leprechauns leap for love
So you’ve been unlucky in love. You think maybe this St. Patrick’s Day the luck of the Irish will rub off on you. But you’re not really interested in getting “lucky” with a one-night stand. You’d like more. You’d like a long-term relationship. So how do you begin? Get out your lucky charm — you!…