He’s pleasant and cordial. However, there are red flags that make you cautious. Some by themselves are deal breakers (he drinks too much), while others have the cumulative effect of “I’m going to pass on this guy.” For each woman the red flags she notices will be different. Here are some of mine: He talks…
The importance of sweet talk
You’ve developed a fondness for each other in several long phone conversations, so you agree to meet. There are signs he’s attracted — he touches you gently, holds your hand, looks you in the eye, pays attention to what you say, asks about you and your interests, seems interested in pleasing you. You are drawn…
Guy needs to make effort for first encounter
I broke my own rule the other day — I initiated contact with a guy. I don’t know why I do this — the results are almost laughably predictable. He had looked at my profile, but didn’t write. I thought he was cute, smart, articulate, so I wrote. His response: “I live close to [intersection…
Signs that he won’t be asking for a second date
He’s pleasant and cordial, not a jerk. But there are signs that there won’t be a second date. You’d agreed to meet for a drink. The waiter brings your drinks, but when he asks if you are ready to order, your date says, “We’re just having drinks.” If he were interested in spending more time…
Chivalry isn’t dead — but it seems to be hibernating
A few of my dates have had impeccable manners. Most weren’t brought up in a house of privilege. Some were taught how to treat a woman by their mothers. However, if their mother didn’t teach them, at some point they decided it was important to learn and practice chivalry. What do I mean? Holding doors,…
Gentleman morphs into masher
I recognized him at the airport coming past Security. He was taller than he seemed in his pics, better looking and better built. He’d been on an airplane 13 hours, yet he’d donned a suit and tie because he knew I find men in well-fitting suits sexy! He recognized me — I was wearing a…
“Sex: A Man’s Guide”
I thought this posting would pique your interest! But, since mostly women read this blog, why am I writing about men’s sex? When I began to put my toe in the dating water, I realized I had been intimate with only man in the past 20 years. I wondered what might have changed. What should…
Anticipating a big date is like awaiting Santa
Tonight I’m meeting a man with whom I’ve been communicating for a month, with nearly daily hour-long phone calls. I feel like a kid on Christmas Eve, unsettled with the excitement of what Santa will bring. Do you remember that feeling of joyous anticipation as you await a big event? Will the electricity be as…
Are you putting your best voice forward?
Do you know what your voice projects about you to your potential date? Most people don’t. They can’t even stand to listen to their outgoing voice mail. But in the dating game, how you sound is one component of the dance that can either lead the guy to ask you out or beg off. Today…
Dating dilemma — what would you do?
I am invited to speak on a cruise in 6 weeks. I and a guest will not pay for the cruise, just tips, excursions, and air fare. “How great,” you say. “What’s the problem?” “I’m considering inviting a guy I just started seeing, assuming we continue to hit it off and I don’t think he…
The addiction of dating
Dating can be addicting. Why? There is the excitement of the chase. The first emails, the first phone calls, the first meetings. The attention of a man attempting to please you — to woo you. I’m often drawn to a man who says he’s wants to spoil his woman. I like spoiling, don’t you? With…