What is sexy?
"Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think you've got." —Sophia Loren In my online profile, I used to describe myself as sexy. I took it…
Getting naked with him the first time
"According to a new survey, women say they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do undressing in front of other women. They say that women are…
Posted inDating after 40
Don’t initiate
Chatting with a friend yesterday, he observed that dating for woman over 40 was different than for women under 40 because of the mixed expectations. Many mid-life women have had…
50 ways to leave your lover? 4 ways NOT to leave your suitor
If you know it isn't a good match, you owe it to him to tell him and then either move on or become friends. But do so graciously, respectfully and…
Start with coffee
New online daters have shared that they are concerned about accepting a date with someone and as soon as they meet him, they know he is not a match. If…
Posted inWinning at the online dating game
One ringy-dingy — making the first call go smoothly
It seems many people have difficulty with the first phone call. If you are initiating the call, you may procrastinate because you don't know how to start. Nowadays, men know…
From hurt to flirt
When my husband of 20 years left me I was stunned. I didn't see it coming. After crying in a fetal position for a week, I had a talk with…
How to say “thanks but no thanks” to online winks, flirts and teases
When someone is not a member of a dating site -- or they are lazy -- they float a trial balloon by clicking on "Wink" (depending on the site, these…
Shopping for men
Dating life can be brutal. You make an effort to look nice (I call it getting "dated up") to meet someone new, then he either doesn't contact you afterwards, tells…
Dating is like Baskin-Robbins
I compare my philosophy of dating to visiting Baskin-Robbins where I ordered vanilla for 20 years (maybe it was Rocky Road at the end!). While I enjoyed vanilla, I want…
You’ve got to kiss a lot of …. princes!
Most of the women over 40 I talk to have become frustrated about dating because they seem to think many men are cads, players, jerks — in other words frogs!…