Have you noticed that people fall in love with varying rapidity? For some, it’s a wham, all-at-once thing soon — sometimes minutes — after meeting someone. For others, it may take years. For some it’s a slow-but-steady thing, like coffee dripping through the filter one drop at a time. It’s a thousand drops that bring…
Dating after 40
Is your date sensitive to your comfort?
In “Before agreeing to a weekend getaway, clarify expectations” I shared how I’ve learned to ask better questions before going on an outing. So I asked a few when a man I’d gone out with 5 times in a month asked if I wanted to accompany him and his photography club to a horse show….
Jumping to conclusions
We’d been seeing each other for a few weeks. We’d hit it off really well and expressed our mutual liking. We’d decided to get together Friday evening for something casual. No definite plans had been made, just that we’d talk that afternoon and see what we wanted to do and when to rendezvous. He called…
“Ninny-ness”
A gal pal says that when you’re enamored, smitten, enraptured, enthralled, and/or mesmerized with someone, you become a ninny. Your brain is not fully engaged. You do and say things to or with that person that if you were advising someone else, you’d tell him/her not to do/say. But you find yourself thinking these are…
Becoming a “boo”
What is a boo? Does it have something to do with ghosts? When doubled, does it refer to a child’s scraped knee? No. It is from the language of the street, sometimes referred to as “ghetto,” often used by African Americans from the ‘hood. A “boo” is a beau, sweetheart, boyfriend/girlfriend, main squeeze. (I once…
How long do you hedge your bet?
You’ve been seeing someone casually, once a week for a month. You like him, he seems to like you as he keeps asking you to lunch, and ending each encounter with a passionate kiss. He calls you a few times a week and engages in an IM chat at least once a day. You’re not…
Living a R&B song
I love R&B music. It is romantic, sexy, vulnerable and has a danceable beat. So it is icing on the cake that Radio Guy, the newest guy in my life, is a R&B disc jockey. In addition to having a melodious voice, his words and actions reflect the R&B he’s listened to five hours a…
Dating for lazy people
“All right, Mr. DeMille, I’m ready for my close-up.” Norma Desmond’s line from “Sunset Boulevard” takes on new meaning now that we have online video speed dating thanks to SpeedDate.com. This is a way for lazy people to speed date. Since I cannot see myself getting all dated up to attend a speedating event live,…
“How many sexual partners have you had?”
This is a deadly question to ask someone you’re dating. Whatever he says will be wrong. If he’s had fewer than you think is appropriate, you’ll think he’s inexperienced. If he’s had more — perhaps way more — than you think is acceptable, you’ll think he’s a slut. And what if he asks you? Same…
Have you watched your sweetie at work?
When a man greets you for the first time with “My, my, my,” you know it’s going to be a good date! Thus began my dinner date last night with guy #82, who we’ll call Mr. Radio Guy since he is the headliner DJ at a R&B station. Even before meeting him, we clicked with…
Getting a man to fall for you
My friend Jeff Mac addressed an interesting question from one of his Manslations.com readers. She asked for the trick to getting a man to fall hopelessly and helplessly in love with you. Jeff had some good advice. And since I’m always willing to horn in on my fellow blogger’s questions, my answer is to paraphrase…