Here are a few examples of two-words phrases you don’t really want to hear while dating: Comb over Hair plugs Spousal reconciliation I’m married It’s over None of these would be music to your ears. Some of these are worse than the phrase I want to focus on: “I’ve decided…” These two words are…
Dating after 40
Review of “How to Behave: Dating and Sex”
How to Behave: Dating and Sex: A Guide to Modern Manners for the Socially Challenged by Caroline Tiger This gift-size 222-page book is full of lists. For every topic (Turning Down an Unwanted Suitor, Disarming the Over-Toucher, Avoiding Your Date’s Bad Breath), she lists a handful of tips. Some are common sense (never hit on…
When you’re inappropriately dressed for a date
You feel stupid. You forgot to ask about appropriate attire and just made an assumption. He’d invited you to dinner and you mistook the name of the restaurant for a high-end one with a similar name to this tavern. You’re in a flirty, low-cut cocktail dress with glittering accessories and high heels, which is totally…
Hot sex and laughter
“The only reason to give another adult your house key is for laughter and hot sex.” —Regina Barreca, Ph.D. Dr. Barreca said this in the keynote speech she delivered Thursday. I thought it was priceless, as is she. She is an amazing, hilarious, intelligent, insightful, fabulous author and speaker. Her books include They Used to…
Review of “Dating Dynamics for Finding Mr. Right”
My friend Marsha Petrie Sue has created an audio CD of her dating techniques called “Dating Dynamics for Finding Mr. Right.” Her strategies are based on her process for finding her second husband 18 years ago. She also includes stories from other singles on how they went about the husband hunt and has updated it…
Is romance real?
My friend Sharon Ellison, M.S. emailed me this article and I thought you might like it. Sharon is an award-winning speaker, international consultant and the author of Taking the War Out of Our Words. Email her if you have a thought to share with her. Billions of dollars are made on movies and novels about…
Do you know what will make you happy?
When dating someone with whom you’ve become enamored, it is easy to project your life into the future. You imagine being intertwined every blissful day, moving in together, perhaps getting married. In this fantasy is embedded perpetual elation, constant joy, unbridled happiness. Wouldn’t it be grand if we could accurately predict such euphoria? Unfortunately, humans…
“Disruption precedes discovery”
Keynote speaker Ian Percy uttered these words as a way to explain that what he was about to say would be disturbing to some of us in the audience. In fact, he said, some of us would not like what he said at all. But his purpose was to shake up our thinking a bit….
Consciously creating the relationship you want
“Don’t let what you’ve created get in the way of what you want to create.” —Jana Stanfield My friend Jana Stanfield, the amazing musical artist, said this as we talked about our somewhat recent singlehood and what we could do with our lives now that we didn’t have a husband about whom to be concerned….
Who are you magnetizing into your life?
Some people believe they attract people into their life. Within reason, I’m one of them. I don’t believe that I attract every person with whom I come in contact, but I do think I’ve had important people come to me, if even for just a few minutes. When that’s happened, there’s been a lesson for…
In boyfriend you trust?
A gal pal shared a concern about her boyfriend of two months. “He’s still has a very strong relationship with both his ex-wife and his last girlfriend. He’s been apart from his ex-girlfriend a year after a year-long relationship. And he’s been divorced from his ex-wife three years after a two-year marriage. “His ex-girlfriend comes…