Allow him to change his mind
I hear women complain about guys who suggest future plans or verbalize their affection in the early stages of dating. Then these women are irritated, nay angry, when the guy…
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What do women fear?
My friend Steve pointed out the article "What Scares a Man?" by David Zinczenko. In it Zinczenko illuminates 15 things that frighten men. I was struck by how many of…
Are you stingy in dating?
Stingy: unwilling to give or spend; ungenerous. When most of us hear the word "stingy" we think of miserly, penny-pinching, Scroogelike, tightfisted, cheap and skinflint. You could be one of…
Releasing revenge
In a seminar I was leading, a customer service provider was irritated by the rude customers she dealt with daily. "I want to know how to get back at them,"…
A primer for how to become more romantic
In "What’s your definition of romance?" we talked about specific activities that most women consider romantic. However, I've been thinking more about what comprises romance. Then I got this question…
All you need is love?
The other day I had coffee with a man I dated briefly a year ago and with whom I've stayed in touch. As we were catching up, he chided me…
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What’s your date’s score on the Delight/Disappointment Scale?
Competitive people keep score. They note accumulated points and penalties. I think we unconsciously do this with our dates. So I've devised a chart to illustrate what usually happens in…
Midlife men have forgotten how to date
Swapping dating stories with a guy pal, I said, based on my observations, it seems many midlife men have forgotten how to date and be with a woman. He agreed.…
Have you built a fortress around your heart?
If we've been hurt in love, it is easy to say, "I'm not going to let that happen again." We close off our heart, building a wall around it so…
Romancing the media on Valentine’s Day
After my posting yesterday on "You are loved!" I certainly felt the love from many sources, including an unexpected one -- the media! So excuse me, dear readers, but allow…
You are loved!
Happy Valentine's Day! The spirit of Valentine's Day is to show others you care about them and, in turn, others will show that you are loved. However, sometimes we need…