The “pound-dog” syndrome in dating
Have you noticed that dogs and cats adopted from shelters into good, loving homes are often very affectionate with their new owners? Many animals adopted from the pound have been…
Does your date share your world view?
Many months ago, I was sharing with a gal pal how I was smitten with the guy I was seeing. After stammering to answer when she asked why I liked…
What’s your definition of dating success?
For many women the answer to this question would be, "To find my next love/husband/mate." I invite you to consider another possible definition. If someone were to ask you, "What…
Approaching dating as a project
The other day Internet Guy and I talked about the process of dating. He said he's been put off by women who are assertive (aggressive?) about their dating time line.…
The trial kiss
In sales, when you check for buying interest you use a trial close. Something like, "If you were to purchase this, which color/size/model would you like most?" Or, "If you…
Awaiting the equivalent of a prom invitation
I don't yet have a date invitation for New Year's Eve. I'm in that dilemma some high school girls talk about where the prom is coming up and there are…
Appreciating the Christmas gifts
No matter what your feelings about Christmas, I think you'd agree that the season -- at least in many parts of the world -- is focused around giving. It is…
Is your date trainable?
Sometimes I'm asked why I don't always speak up when a date does something I don't like. I weigh several things: Do I care enough about this relationship to put…
Do you get his motor running, or why does he read “easy” on your forehead?
I was chatting with a male friend about why the majority of the "bad" dates listed in "Men behaving badly" involved men moving too fast. We discussed if these guys…
Women’s first-date blunders
In "First-date red flags that this guy isn't for you" I talked about what men do that tell you he should be released back into the dating pool. But I've…
When “be yourself” is questionable advice
Oft-heard advice to daters is, "Just be yourself." Well, what if "yourself" isn't very appealing? What if "being yourself" means showing up for a first date with disheveled hair, dirty,…