“Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.” —Billy Crystal I am continually flummoxed by how men and women seem to see sex so totally differently. From my experience, it seems that men take sex much less seriously than women. I know I’m generalizing here. I know there are always exceptions,…
Dating chemistry
The two-suitor conundrum: What would you do?
Two weeks ago I started seeing Mr. Dreamboat. However, 3 weeks ago, Mr. 400MilesAway bought an airline ticket and made hotel reservations to come meet me this upcoming weekend. Mr. Dreamboat and I have gotten pretty close, although we’ve only had 3 dates. I don’t really have a desire to meet anyone else right now,…
Boynton Beach Club shows older-dating joys and trials
Yesterday, the Washington Post ran a fun article reviewing the new movie on older dating: “Cast of the Gray-Hot Lovers In ‘Boynton Beach,’ a New Wrinkle on a Mature Subject.” While you have to register to get free access to the article, it’s worth a read, and sounds like the movie is worth watching. It…
Be creative to get his attention!
Last week I had two sublime dates, Wed. and Thurs., with a new guy (#65 if you’re keeping track). I loved being with him, and from all he said and did, it seemed he felt similarly. He called twice Friday while on a business trip (yes, even over a weekend). He’d said it was fine…
What’s your “perfect boyfriend’s” job description?
“When I was a young man, I vowed never to marry until I found the ideal woman. Well, I found her — but alas, she was waiting for the ideal man.” —Robert Schuman It has been said that first dates are like job interviews, with both sides interviewing for the other’s position of “sweetheart/lover/mate.” While…
Dating differences: it’s in the brains
My friend Ian forwarded the following excerpt from an article on the difference between male and female brains, as it relates to dating and relationships. “‘[Women] use different brain areas and circuits to solve problems, process language, experience and store the same strong emotion,’ [researcher] Brizendine says. ‘Women may remember the smallest details of their…
“Let it please be him”
I remember singing Vikki Carr‘s “It Must Be Him” whenever a lovesick roommate would be awaiting a call from her new beau and the phone rang. It goes “Let it please be him, oh dear God It must be him or I shall die Or I shall die Oh hello, hello my dear God It…
The sex talk
I’m surprised when a man expresses he wants to have sex, but he doesn’t then initiate a discussion of protection. I guess there’s an assumption condoms will be used, but how much more reassuring it would be if he brings up the issue rather than me. If he were to say “I would love to…
Falling in lust
” Too much of a good thing can be wonderful.” —Mae West How do you know you’re falling in love vs. falling in lust? I don’t have the answer — I’m hoping you do! All I know is it feels like I’m falling in something! Here’s what’s happening: I met an amazing guy Wednesday. Everything…
First-date red flags that this guy isn’t for you
He’s pleasant and cordial. However, there are red flags that make you cautious. Some by themselves are deal breakers (he drinks too much), while others have the cumulative effect of “I’m going to pass on this guy.” For each woman the red flags she notices will be different. Here are some of mine: He talks…
The importance of sweet talk
You’ve developed a fondness for each other in several long phone conversations, so you agree to meet. There are signs he’s attracted — he touches you gently, holds your hand, looks you in the eye, pays attention to what you say, asks about you and your interests, seems interested in pleasing you. You are drawn…