Some midlife women have shared that they would be interested in dating and finding a sweetie, but they don’t want to do any work to find him. They may — or may not — list themselves on a dating site, but they’re not willing to look at profiles, nor email anyone. If someone approaches her,…
Are you ready for Mr. Great?
When a man tells you what he paid for things
For two months I dated a man who told me what he paid for his Mercedes ($85,000), his Ferragamo shoes ($450), his Persian rug ($1400), his Rolex ($10,000), and his son’s PlayStation ($600), among other items. He was a wealthy man who spent less than $100 total on our weekly dates. This got me wondering…
Being a good Girl Scout in dating
I loved being a Girl Scout. On meeting days I proudly wore my uniform to school and voraciously earned many badges to decorate my sash. Recently, I thought about how The Girl Scout Law affects my dating — and of course, my life philosophy. The Girl Scout Law I will do my best to be…
Make peace with your body parts
Midlife women have shared with me that they didn’t want to start dating until they lost weight and/or got in shape. Some said the thought of getting undressed in front of a man was so unnerving, they would rather not start the dating process if that was to be the end result. In “Getting naked…
How does music affect your dating?
Listening to my preferred radio station today, I noticed how many of my favorite songs are love ballads. Not lyrics of heartbreak and disappointment, but songs of deep caring and affection. Okay, I admit it, in addition to Luther Vandross, Marvin Gaye, Toni Braxton, Babyface, Gladys Knight and Michael Bolton, I like tunes by Barry…
Think of dating like the movie “Groundhog Day”
Remember the hilarious 1993 film “Groundhog Day”? Poor Bill Murray‘s character, Phil Connors, repeats the same day — Feb. 2, Groundhog Day — over and over and over again. But he’s aware that he’s reliving it so he begins to do different things each day, at first hedonistically, then he begins to reexamine his life…
Does he mention you to his pals?
Most over-40 women have close pals with whom they frequently share their dating stories and woes. If she is at all interested in him, her gal pals know about a man soon after contact is made, even if just through an email. After a date, she may share the details with more than one close…
“Date #75 requests permission to land”
Passing the airport the other day, my friend Ken noticed the many planes lined up for miles awaiting their turn to approach the runway. He said he immediately thought of my always having an endless stream of potential suitors lined up in various stages of “landing” a date with me. It’s true that I am…
Allow him to change his mind
I hear women complain about guys who suggest future plans or verbalize their affection in the early stages of dating. Then these women are irritated, nay angry, when the guy disappears. It is easy to do and I’ve found myself doing it, too. Instead of labeling the guys “liars,” “jerks,” “losers,” and “snakes,” why not…
Are you stingy in dating?
Stingy: unwilling to give or spend; ungenerous. When most of us hear the word “stingy” we think of miserly, penny-pinching, Scroogelike, tightfisted, cheap and skinflint. You could be one of these things in dating if you never offer to pick up a tab, buy tickets, or buy even a nominal gift for your guy. Male…
Releasing revenge
In a seminar I was leading, a customer service provider was irritated by the rude customers she dealt with daily. “I want to know how to get back at them,” she demanded of me. When someone has wronged us, it is common to want revenge. When a man has led us on, then unceremoniously dumped…