Dr. Phil says we don’t ask the right questions when determining if someone might be a good match for us. I’m sure he’s right. I now have a list of questions I *wish* I’d asked, which I’ll post later. One of my favorite questions to ask tells me a lot about the man. I explain…
Are you ready for Mr. Great?
When it clicks, throw out some of your criteria
I met a wonderful man online 10 days ago. He is successful, intelligent, funny, gentlemanly, worldly, interesting, communicative, educated, considerate, articulate, complimentary, shares his feelings, and is a great conversationalist. So far, we share the values we’ve discussed. We have similar political views and philosophies about life. We are both small business owners. We talk…
50 ways to leave your lover? 4 ways NOT to leave your suitor
If you know it isn’t a good match, you owe it to him to tell him and then either move on or become friends. But do so graciously, respectfully and gracefully, no matter what. Here are four ways NOT to let him know. Via email — if you’ve dated him more than a few times,…
Have a good memory to avoid repeating mistakes
Today a nice-looking man emailed me. Based on his profile, he would be someone I would be interested in getting to know. He met most of my criteria. However, as I looked at his picture, I felt I had seen it before. Had he appeared in my matches before? If so, I would have contacted…
Playing the online dating game
I got winked at today by someone whose profile was without a picture. In fact, in place of the picture the dating site says “Ask for a picture.” However, his profile says “I care whats [sic] inside not the cover and its important that the first thing her email says is not send me a…
Don’t think you are damaged goods
When you reenter the dating world at middle age, it is easy to focus on what is wrong with you. Your body is not as firm and lithe as it was in your 20’s. You have wrinkles, perhaps some cellulite, maybe some gray hair. You probably don’t have as much energy as you used to,…
“Will date for food”
I’m amazed when I hear of women who will accept dates with nearly anyone because they feel at least they’ll get a free meal out of it. I have one friend who feels this way. I don’t think it is fair to the man to accept an invitation just for the sake of a meal….
Honesty is not always the best policy
No, I am not suggesting you lie. I am suggesting, however, that there are times when full honesty is not the best at the time. For example, full disclosure is not always necessary on a first date. I’ve had guys tell me they were still living with their wives, had been adulterers, were being sued…
It’s raining men!
“Ten men waiting for me at the door? Send one of them home. I’m tired.” —Mae West One of the beauties of online dating is it seems there is a never-ending supply of suitors. At least that’s my experience. And I have pretty stringent criteria for my matches. Yes, I get 10 times more…
Start with coffee
New online daters have shared that they are concerned about accepting a date with someone and as soon as they meet him, they know he is not a match. If the plan is for dinner, dancing, lunch or hiking, they know the are in for hours of making polite conversation with someone they know is…
The art of consideration
When most guys are starting to woo a woman, they work to make her happy. They do things that they think will show they are considerate and care. They suggest activities they think she’ll like. I’ve dated guys who were very considerate. One said “You pick the movie/restaurant and I’ll pay.” to show he was…