When I’ve shared with single, dating guy pals that I’m multi-dating they say that there is a double standard. If a guy talked about having dates with multiple women, he’d be chastised and accused of being a player. Isn’t the reason for dating to find out who you click with and who you don’t? Sometimes…
Winning at the online dating game
Being “aggressively single”
My friend British professional speaker Graham Davies describes himself as “aggressively single.” He’s 44 and has a highly successful speaking business in Europe and the US. Friends tease me about the number of men I’ve gone out with in the last two years. Often they exclaim, “I haven’t dated that many people in my life!”…
He had me from “You’re gorgeous!”
In “Jerry McGuire,” Renee Zellweger‘s character tells Jerry “You had me from ‘hello.’” Mine was a little different. We’d talked a few times on the phone and had nice, but brief, conversations. I wrote about him in “Putting your best voice forward.” I had no idea if I’d be attracted to him or him to…
Qualify your potential dates before meeting
After dating now nearly 2 years, I’ve learned how to weed out many men who aren’t good matches. Why meet and waste both our time? Men have to go through a few hoops to earn a date with me — even if it’s just a coffee date. I have more invitations than I have time…
Judging a guy by how well he … punctuates
I was chatting with my friend Jeff Rubin (The Newsletter Guy) about dating profiles and punctuation today. “Punctuation?” you ask. “That’s a weird topic.” Not to Jeff and other of my friends. You see, Jeff started National Punctuation Day (Sept. 24) to call attention to the importance of proper punctuation. The book Eats, Shoots &…
Date turned out to be losing bet
While most daters can regale you with dates gone bad, I’ve been lucky enough to only have about 10% of my dates in this category. And even bad dates have had some learning for me. This one, some months ago, helped me create the “only coffee first date” rule. After seeing the movie “Dreamer: Inspired…
No, I will not be dating your Harley
I am often amazed at the pictures guys post in their profiles. After nearly two years of online man shopping — looking at profiles — I shouldn’t be surprised anymore. But based on all the pictures of men with their motorcycles, these must be babe magnets. I’ve even seen men post 12 pictures of their…
Dear Fido
This guy kept coming to the top of my matches on one of the dating sites, so after a few months I decided to initiate contact. But I did so with his dog mentioned in his profile, which we’ll call “Fido” to protect his — and his owner’s — identity. The things mentioned are references…
Use funny emails for unresponsive contacts
It is frustrating when you initiate contact with a guy you think is a good match, and you don’t hear back. My single male friends tell me it’s often because they don’t feel it’s a good match and they don’t want to hurt your feelings by saying this, so they don’t respond. Other pals have…
Cyber suitors: What do you call him when you haven’t met yet?
This weekend I’m meeting a man who lives 400 miles away and has called me nearly every day — sometimes twice a day — for 4 months. So how do I refer to him when I talk to friends? I don’t usually share potential suitors’ names with friends until I’ve at least met a guy…
The two-suitor conundrum: What would you do?
Two weeks ago I started seeing Mr. Dreamboat. However, 3 weeks ago, Mr. 400MilesAway bought an airline ticket and made hotel reservations to come meet me this upcoming weekend. Mr. Dreamboat and I have gotten pretty close, although we’ve only had 3 dates. I don’t really have a desire to meet anyone else right now,…