In talking to a potential suitor yesterday, I learned that a woman should not give a man her phone number too quickly. When I asked why, he said, “It makes her seem too cavalier about it. I think she must give it to everyone this quickly, so I don’t feel special. I’d rather wait until…
Winning at the online dating game
Playing the online dating game
I got winked at today by someone whose profile was without a picture. In fact, in place of the picture the dating site says “Ask for a picture.” However, his profile says “I care whats [sic] inside not the cover and its important that the first thing her email says is not send me a…
It’s raining men!
“Ten men waiting for me at the door? Send one of them home. I’m tired.” —Mae West One of the beauties of online dating is it seems there is a never-ending supply of suitors. At least that’s my experience. And I have pretty stringent criteria for my matches. Yes, I get 10 times more…
Start with coffee
New online daters have shared that they are concerned about accepting a date with someone and as soon as they meet him, they know he is not a match. If the plan is for dinner, dancing, lunch or hiking, they know the are in for hours of making polite conversation with someone they know is…
Long-distance suitor and the first date
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder— of somebody else.” —Anonymous A man who lives 400 miles away has been flirting with me for months and calls every day. He decided he would fly to my city this weekend to meet me. He’d get a car and a hotel room, so there would be no discomfort…
One ringy-dingy — making the first call go smoothly
It seems many people have difficulty with the first phone call. If you are initiating the call, you may procrastinate because you don’t know how to start. Nowadays, men know that some women don’t want to give out their number, so they give her their number. This gives the woman more control over who they…
Is that you? Pictures are just a rough facsimile of the real thing
When I was first dating, I wouldn’t respond to someone if their picture wasn’t appealing, even if they sent an articulate, fun email. I also turned down any contact who I couldn’t imagine kissing, based on his picture. I didn’t meet a lot of new guys with these criteria! Now I’ve learned that pics in…
Dating as a job interview
Early on, I scoffed when I was told men see dating as a job interview. How could finding love be similar to finding a job? But then a guy recited his resume to me. I learned where and when he went to school, his major, and a litany of his jobs, including dates and companies….
Pictures: To post or not to post — that is the question
At lunch today, a single friend was lamenting the challenge of finding Mr. Right. In her early 40’s, never married, educated, intelligent, funny and beautiful, she wants to have a family and is feeling the pressure. When discussing online dating sites, she said she doesn’t post her picture because she wants men to be attracted…
Dating karma
I believe what goes around comes around. How you treat others is how you will be treated. Of course, there are always exceptions — you were cranky with someone and she went out of her way to be nice. Or you were nice, and he was mean. But generally, I believe if you are polite,…
Becoming smitten with the fantasy
I’ve been surprised when men become smitten with me without yet meeting me. Perhaps we’ve had some interesting emails and phone calls, and they begin professing their love — or lust — for me. It’s happened enough times, I’ve decided they fall for the fantasy. When I was first dating, it happened to me. Now…