I have a date with a new guy tonight — an advertising agency owner who lives in a nearby laid-back resort town. We had a fun, interesting first conversation two days ago and he asked me to join him for dinner at a midrange restaurant. Now I must figure out what to wear. I think…
Dating after 40
Timing is everything
You know the old adage that the secret to comedy is timing? The same is true in dating. We seek the mate of our dreams. So we date. And we date. And we date. We get frustrated. “Why can’t I find a great guy?” we ask ourselves. We get tired of going out on dates…
Euphemisms R us
In dating profiles common phrases are used that are really euphemisms — nice ways to say what isn’t totally true. While I know you’d never use any of these duplicitously, others do. Some of these I’ve learned the hard way, as I am generally trusting and believe people at their word. But I’ve found that…
Eureka! I have found the answer
Yes, ladies, after much research, I think I’ve found the answer to how to make a guy fall for you. This has been right in front of our noses for many, many years, and some women have already figured this out. How could I (and perhaps you) be so obtuse? The secret has been flaunted…
Why do midlife daters have sex?
No doubt you’ve heard of the study released a few days ago from University of Texas at Austin psychology researchers David Buss, Ph.D. and Cindy Meston, Ph.D. on why human beings have sex. However, upon closer examination, I see that the study was based mostly on undergraduate students (1500 of the 1900 subjects were students;…
Readers: need your input
I want to ask if you’ll be part of my virtual focus group. You can either write your responses in a comment or email me directly. Thanks in advance. I’m working on a few ideas to expand what I do and want your suggestions and input. I am working on converting collections of postings on…
Conflicting dating advice
Do you experience conflicting dating advice from relationship “experts” and/or savvy friends? I do. While I share my insights, lessons and yes, sometimes advice on this blog, there are many issues about dating I’m still figuring out. A current dilemma is around whether to cook for a potential suitor I had several dates with many…
Dating’s “dog days of summer”
As we enter August, the days get sweltering and we’re reminded of the phrase “dog days of summer.” Using this term and dating together could conjure up men who’ve behaved like dogs, or images of the hottest, most sultry men! And since it’s only the beginning of the month, perhaps sizzling men are to be…
The strong vs. nice woman debate
Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl — A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship by Sherry Argov First, let me allow the author to explain the title, as it is somewhat off putting to those of us who don’t relish being referred to as bitches. Argov writes “I’m not recommending…
Favors during dating — good or bad idea?
“Women grow attached to men through the favors they grant them; but men, through the same favors, are cured of their love.” —Jean de la Bruyere This quote made me examine my attitude about favors, as hopefully it will you, too. Women: do you grow fond of men by the things they do for you?…
Belief in a wreath
I recently read about a Lithuanian summer solstice ritual where at midnight unmarried women toss leaf and flower wreaths into rivers. The belief is that their wreath will be pulled out downriver by the man of their dreams. Were it this easy to telegraph to the man of our dreams that we are available and…