Double standards
I was lamenting -- OK, complaining -- to a male friend the other day about how men have double standards. They want someone who is "slim, fit, athletic, toned" when…
You are (probably) more attractive than you think you are!
It seems that people have a mismatch on their expectation of attractiveness. The stereotype is that a man wants (and often gets) a woman who is much more attractive than…
Be careful of being smitten
As I was enthusiastically describing to a friend my fondness for my newest gentleman caller, she asked "Are you smitten?" I pondered, then replied, "No, enamored." We then discussed the…
What do men look at in your profile?
Yesterday a dating friend told me what he thinks men look for in women's profiles. First, your picture. If he likes your face, he'll look for one that shows your…
A favorite question to ask
Dr. Phil says we don't ask the right questions when determining if someone might be a good match for us. I'm sure he's right. I now have a list of…
When it clicks, throw out some of your criteria
I met a wonderful man online 10 days ago. He is successful, intelligent, funny, gentlemanly, worldly, interesting, communicative, educated, considerate, articulate, complimentary, shares his feelings, and is a great conversationalist.…
50 ways to leave your lover? 4 ways NOT to leave your suitor
If you know it isn't a good match, you owe it to him to tell him and then either move on or become friends. But do so graciously, respectfully and…
Have a good memory to avoid repeating mistakes
Today a nice-looking man emailed me. Based on his profile, he would be someone I would be interested in getting to know. He met most of my criteria. However, as…
Don’t give your phone number too soon
In talking to a potential suitor yesterday, I learned that a woman should not give a man her phone number too quickly. When I asked why, he said, "It makes…
Playing the online dating game
I got winked at today by someone whose profile was without a picture. In fact, in place of the picture the dating site says "Ask for a picture." However, his…
Don’t think you are damaged goods
When you reenter the dating world at middle age, it is easy to focus on what is wrong with you. Your body is not as firm and lithe as it…