“We cannot really love anybody with whom we never laugh.” —Agnes Repplier Women list the number one thing they want in a guy is “someone who makes me laugh.” While I agree this is important, it is not the over arching criteria on which to base a relationship. Yesterday I was contacted by a guy…
Winning at the online dating game
“Pimpin’” — Dating multiple guys
“Save a boyfriend for a rainy day — and another, in case it doesn’t rain.” —Mae West I’ve found that successful dating requires juggling several men at once. It is like sales, you have to have a number of prospects in the pipeline. I frequently date several men in the same time period until…
What is sexy?
“Sex appeal is 50% what you’ve got and 50% what people think you’ve got.” —Sophia Loren In my online profile, I used to describe myself as sexy. I took it out. Why? I realized that while I feel I am sexy, it is totally subjective. What if the guy doesn’t find me sexy? Will he…
Safe online dating
A gal pal said she was afraid to date online because of safety issues. It’s true that online you don’t know much about the guy. But that is true if you meet him in a store, bar, on a singles hike or dance. So there are some precautions you take no matter where you meet…
They come, they go
When a friend asks about a potential suitor I’ve talked about but is no longer around, they seem surprised when I say “He’s gone. They come, they go.” This is how it is in the dating world. You see someone a few times, then they lose interest or move on, but don’t bother to tell…
Be careful of being smitten
As I was enthusiastically describing to a friend my fondness for my newest gentleman caller, she asked “Are you smitten?” I pondered, then replied, “No, enamored.” We then discussed the difference. The dictionary describes smitten as “To affect sharply with great feeling; marked by foolish or unreasoning fondness.” Enamored: “To inspire with love; captivate.” “Smitten”…
What do men look at in your profile?
Yesterday a dating friend told me what he thinks men look for in women’s profiles. First, your picture. If he likes your face, he’ll look for one that shows your body. If he likes your body type, he’ll read more. After body, he looks for height, as he likes taller women. Then he’ll look at…
A favorite question to ask
Dr. Phil says we don’t ask the right questions when determining if someone might be a good match for us. I’m sure he’s right. I now have a list of questions I *wish* I’d asked, which I’ll post later. One of my favorite questions to ask tells me a lot about the man. I explain…
When it clicks, throw out some of your criteria
I met a wonderful man online 10 days ago. He is successful, intelligent, funny, gentlemanly, worldly, interesting, communicative, educated, considerate, articulate, complimentary, shares his feelings, and is a great conversationalist. So far, we share the values we’ve discussed. We have similar political views and philosophies about life. We are both small business owners. We talk…
50 ways to leave your lover? 4 ways NOT to leave your suitor
If you know it isn’t a good match, you owe it to him to tell him and then either move on or become friends. But do so graciously, respectfully and gracefully, no matter what. Here are four ways NOT to let him know. Via email — if you’ve dated him more than a few times,…
Have a good memory to avoid repeating mistakes
Today a nice-looking man emailed me. Based on his profile, he would be someone I would be interested in getting to know. He met most of my criteria. However, as I looked at his picture, I felt I had seen it before. Had he appeared in my matches before? If so, I would have contacted…