Do you know how you want to be loved? What if a man loves you, but not quite the way you want to be loved? Will you stick with him, thinking that you can teach him how you want to be loved? Has that worked? I’ve been fortunate enough in my 2.5 years of dating…
Dance through dating — and life
“Life may not be the party we hoped for but while we are here we should DANCE.” —Jerome Flowers This quote is from my Jazzercise instructor’s most recent newsletter. I thought it not only apropos as a life philosophy, but as a dating philosophy. I’m sure he meant this to be both literal and metaphorical…
“I don’t want a whipped boyfriend”
These words were uttered by my neighbor’s 16-year-old daughter as we were discussing dating. The three of us were sharing the nice things men we dated had done for us when she blurted this out. I was surprised, as I didn’t think any of the examples we shared would be considered signs of a man…
Virtually falling for a guy
I mean “virtually” two ways: As the dictionary defines it: “nearly, almost” as in not really; and Via the computer and/or phone; not face to face. My neighbor and I were once again comparing dating notes. She’s dipped her toe in the dating water a bit the last 6 months, going out with a handful…
Are you arguing your limitations?
Midlife women sometimes passionately, convincingly, compellingly tell me why no man would be interested in dating them. “Men aren’t interested in a woman like me who has wrinkles, bags, extra pounds and hot flashes,” she may start. “They’re only interested in girls half their age. And forget anyone wanting a feisty, intelligent, educated woman like…
What makes you feel sexy?
In “What is sexy?” I asked you to explore what you think is sexy in a man. Now I’d like you to identify what makes you feel sexy. For some women, it is when they feel fit and healthy. When they neglect their workout routine, they feel sluggish and not at the top of their…
Falling in …????
You’ve begun to date a guy you like. Each encounter makes you like him more. He’s funny, thoughtful, smart, romantic. He cares about making you happy. He’s not self-absorbed. He sends you sweet, caring emails and gives you sincere compliments. You find yourself falling in…??? What? What is this? Like? Are you falling in like?…
Help your date notice his riches
Benjamin Disraeli said: “The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but to reveal to him his own.” In the context of dating and relationships, I read this as being willing to share your skills and talents with your date without hiding any part of you. In “Do…
Review of “Motivated to Marry”
Many DG readers have shared that they are frustrated by men who do not seem to want a long-term relationship. They wish they could tell ahead of time if a man is telling the truth about wanting to be in a committed relationship, or is just using that as a line to woo her. Motivated…
Is he a “soft place to fall”?
Dr. Phil uses the term “a soft place to fall” to express a safe space to be vulnerable. He frequently asks troubled couples if they each provide a soft place to fall for the other. When you’ve dated a guy for a little while, do you feel you can be vulnerable with him, admitting your…
Do your activity preferences match your guy’s?
Are you clear on how much you like to weekly participate in activities with a sweetie? How much alone time do you want/need? How much time do you want weekly/monthly to spend with your friends and/or family without him? And when you’re with your guy, optimally how many times a week do you want to…