I want to ask if you’ll be part of my virtual focus group. You can either write your responses in a comment or email me directly. Thanks in advance. I’m working on a few ideas to expand what I do and want your suggestions and input. I am working on converting collections of postings on…
Conflicting dating advice
Do you experience conflicting dating advice from relationship “experts” and/or savvy friends? I do. While I share my insights, lessons and yes, sometimes advice on this blog, there are many issues about dating I’m still figuring out. A current dilemma is around whether to cook for a potential suitor I had several dates with many…
Dating’s “dog days of summer”
As we enter August, the days get sweltering and we’re reminded of the phrase “dog days of summer.” Using this term and dating together could conjure up men who’ve behaved like dogs, or images of the hottest, most sultry men! And since it’s only the beginning of the month, perhaps sizzling men are to be…
The strong vs. nice woman debate
Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl — A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship by Sherry Argov First, let me allow the author to explain the title, as it is somewhat off putting to those of us who don’t relish being referred to as bitches. Argov writes “I’m not recommending…
Favors during dating — good or bad idea?
“Women grow attached to men through the favors they grant them; but men, through the same favors, are cured of their love.” —Jean de la Bruyere This quote made me examine my attitude about favors, as hopefully it will you, too. Women: do you grow fond of men by the things they do for you?…
Belief in a wreath
I recently read about a Lithuanian summer solstice ritual where at midnight unmarried women toss leaf and flower wreaths into rivers. The belief is that their wreath will be pulled out downriver by the man of their dreams. Were it this easy to telegraph to the man of our dreams that we are available and…
If you’re in the public eye, be careful how you behave in dating
Sometimes I get flummoxed by how people behave. I wonder, “What would motivate someone to…” or “How could they possibly think that this behavior is acceptable… or “Doesn’t she have a clue how this would affect her reputation?” I’m even more flummoxed with people’s — okay, men’s — behavior in dating. I’m sure women do…
The midlife dating hero(ine)’s journey
Last night I watched the DVD “Joseph Campbell: The Hero’s Journey” because I wanted to know more about his work. In The Hero with a Thousand Faces, Campbell codified thousands of years of myths from multiple cultures into what he described as The Hero’s Journey. Star Wars, Matrix and countless other movies and stories follow…
Making the rounds
I feel like a doctor making her hospital rounds checking on patients. But instead of looking in on Mr. Hernandez after his gallbladder surgery, or Mrs. Fukumoto after her hemorrhoid removal, I check on D1ForU, DreamBeau, LoverBoy1951. I go from Match.com to YahooPersonals to Chemistry.com to SoulMate to see if I have any emails or…
Failed phone audition
We’d flirted online a few times many months ago, then stopped. I can’t remember why. We started again last week. Last night he called. This psychology professor included these tidbits in his 45-minute monologue: He told me in great detail of his recent tooth extraction — his third — and his options for implants or…
“Why Men Leave Home”
Last night I watched the 1951 B-film “Why Men Leave Home.” I found it on the Blockbuster site and was interested to see what messages women were given a half-century ago about beauty and relationships, and how these messages have changed — or not. The plot in a nutshell: A “dowdy” woman puts housework ahead…